Topic: R-Dead Television Report
It shouldn't have been that shocking that Christina and Burke didn't make it down the aisle. I'd hoped that when he went back he would have decided to walk with her down the aisle but alas, it wasn't to be. What was a little surprising at first was that she said, "I'm free!" and started to cry.
I'm free! ha ha! Isn't that just the ticket though sometimes with a certain type of man? They like that you're a different kind of woman. They like a strong woman that can be their equal but then slowly insidiously they start to restrain you, rein you in. They want you to be a certain type of woman and you try and you try and when everything falls apart, you're standing there crying because you're finally free from the female prison you've been placed in. I think Christina's story tells us that it's not easy trying to be everything as a woman for her man and still be everything she wants to be for herself.
He had some beautiful vows though.
We ended off with Izzie for another season feeling the devastation of thoughtless actions. She's so sweet and sensitive and really does get herself in a world of emotional trouble, doesn't she? All I can think is that same warning, "Don't fuck your friends."
And Meredith and Derek (Mer and Der). He pulled a little game playing on her with the whole, I met a woman last night, crap. Why bring that shit up if you are looking to stick a huge wrench in a relationship? I kept thinking as I watched the show, that there's no way for her to go back to him with that coziness that they were developing. I met a woman last night alludes to either you tow the line and slowly allow me to rein you in or you gots to go. When he gave her his 'I'm in" speech, it was damn sweet and doesn't every woman want to hear that from her man? And Meredith shocked me at least when she told him that she had to run off and get Christina down the aisle. Derek's timing does kinda suck. But let's look at the facts of their relationship:
Meredith lost Derek to a wife she didn't even know he had. She had a mother with Alzheimer's, who died when Mer drowned and died herself. She lost her almost mother that she was genuinely growing to care about. Her father slapped her and basically told her she wasn't welcome, cutting off any chance at a relationship ever again. And through all of this and Meredith's over all dark and twisty nature her friends have come through time and again. Derek did continue to pursue Meredith in subtle ways and make it next to impossible for her to get over her feelings for him and Derek was still married and apparently patching up his marriage to survive. And don't you just hate when guys do that? They hold you emotionally hostage so you can't move forward or get over them. And you're a walking, open, gaping wound. LET ME GO!
Meredith already gave her "I'm in" speech when she told Derek/ begged Derek, "Pick me." That was over his choice to go back to a wife who'd already betrayed him and betrayed him so soundly. She said I'm in. She said I love you. She said you are the love of my life and he chose his wife. I've been having a go at a little theory lately about women who have to run an obstacle course for a man. At some point, the obstacle course gets to be too long and the woman gets tired of it all. And there's a level of anger that creeps in (Why can't he just love me without all this bullshit) and it starts the downward spiral.
Seriously, after all they'd been through ,Mer and Der, you'd think that Meredith leaning on her friends is not that big of a deal, especially when Derek said he couldn't breathe for her. It's not like he ever had to worry about her jumping into bed with someone else. She is learning how to rely/lean on others and create her own version of a family with the other interns and Richard and Derek. She was right to say, "If you're going to dump me just do it already."
By the same token, she could have said, "If you're going to love me just love me already."
Derek gave Meredith his own obstacle course and she tried to run it, as best she could. But his big mistake was to push it to the point where it seemed like he was going to leave her again. She's done all the suffering she's going to do over losing Derek, I think.
And poor Bailey always thinking she's failed someone. sigh!
It was another good season.
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