Dear Friends,
For those aspiring for a career in the limelight, I offer my utmost support and encouragement. Have faith in yourself and work everyday to improve your skills. Make your own luck because for most, there is no magical discovery unless you create those circumstances yourself. But, if there is one piece of advice I can offer it is to prepare for jealousy. It's one of the unfortunate truths about our society -- while there are good hearted people who find inspiration from the success of others, there are also those who instead wallow in jealousy.
I have talked before about how it is your choice how to look at the world. If you see a successful actor you can be jealous of him or you can learn from his success and emulate those techniques to achieve your own success. That is your choice: to be a positive person or a negative one.
What you need to realize is that this choice of positive or negative is one everyone must make, and there will always be people who choose the negative view and will focus those negative energies on you. The most difficult thing to do is to not take it personally. I can tell you first hand that it hurts deeply to hear lies told about you by strangers. What hurts even more are the lies told by supposed friends - lies told out of jealousy, meant intentionally to hurt or as a way to draw attention to themselves.
What you have to remember is that you can't always please everyone. It's not your actions that make people jealous; jealousy comes from people's own short comings and insecurities.
Jealousy can manifest itself in so many ways: the person who has the crush on you, hurt that you don't share their affections; the heartbroken ex-lover who lashes out in grief; the actor who wanted the role you end up playing; the producer who wanted you for a production you're not available for; someone successful in their own right who is threatened by your talent and is scared of becoming yesterday's news...the list goes on and on. The reason for someone's jealousy is not important, because it's irrational - there's nothing you can do to change it, only they can conquer their own demons.
Live your life in a way that you are proud. Be proud of your actions. Make amends for your mistakes. And go to bed knowing you have lived your life to the best of your ability -- in accordance to your own judgement, not anyone else's judgement.
Mean spirited words, lies, and malicious accusations will always hurt. Address them with dignity. Rise above the jealous few, embrace the many supporters, and live the good life that brought you to the success that inspires this sad jealousy. And, maybe, just maybe, you can even inspire one of those jealous few to see the error in their ways.
I am forever your fan and look forward to hearing of your own success stories.
PEACE LOVE TRUST
rikki lee travolta
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