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Monday, 1 October 2007
What to expect when you're naked and your wife walks in.

Check out Chicago Pop's fabulous lead-in over at Daddy Dialectic. It starts out like a playboy forum fantasy should and ends like... a well....

Coming home from work to find your wife nude in the living room is supposed to be one of the classic male heterosexual fantasies. So I naturally wondered if the reverse might be true when, at about 6:30 one evening, I stood naked at the top of the stairs as my wife came in the door below..... [more]

Playgroup Update: I've added 3 new playgroups to the playgroup list, The MatSu Dads  Anchorage Alaska,  Baytown Area Daddy and Me Playgroup  Baytown, Texas (Houston area), and Salem, Oregon. e-mail

Posted by athomedad at 9:35 AM EDT
Updated: Monday, 1 October 2007 9:45 AM EDT
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Thursday, 27 September 2007
Celeb-dads* go back to work

Is it me? Or are all the celebrity dads "going back to work" at the same time? I really don't mean for this to turn into a celebrity baby blog, but I find myself in the midst of a new trend I just can't ignore, dads who stay with their kid(s) for a year or so, then run off to make/promote their new movie.

The latest celeb-dad* to join the Clooney/Pitt/Cruise gang is Jerry Seinfeld who dropped by Toronto's Varsity Cinema and offered his take on parenting to the Theater audience before showing a few teasers of his new film "Bee Movie":

I was one of those guys who just didn't get it,” he acknowledged, saying he was mystified by watching parents push strollers around and the idea of living with another person who “craps in their pants while looking you right in the eye.

“I love the kids,” he added, but said he still has a hard time with the endless chain of reciprocal birthday parties, at which “I envy the piñata.”

Children “don't like to see humans on screen,” but enjoy cartoon characters with human behaviour, he said.

He said bees seemed a natural choice: “They have an office, they have a product, they have bosses. … [They have] a little corporation, hanging from a tree.”

Then there's Richard Gere who had plenty to say about Fatherhood while promoting Hunting Party which came out a few days ago, And on Friday The Rock comes with Disney's  The Game Plan: "In my movie I play a superstar quarterback who suddenly discovers the kids he never knew he had"

You  get the idea, I'll skip the research on the last two movies I gotta take my kids to marching band practice. (Watch for my movie in 2010.)

* celeb-dad will be my new made up word if this is a new trend. (watch out you mom-blockers)

[ref: The Boston Visit, Globe and Mail]

Posted by athomedad at 3:32 PM EDT
Updated: Thursday, 4 October 2007 12:56 PM EDT
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Micheal Douglas has a new confession and he's pissed

Add Michael Douglas to the growing list of celebrities joining the at-home dad ranks while mom takes her turn in the spotlight. A reporter out of nottingham reported that the Wall Street star has apparently "confessed"  that he is now an at-home dad to his two kids Dylan (7) and Carys (4) while Catherine Zeta-Jones (38!) rakes in the cash. Says Douglas (63!):

"The kids know what mummy does for a living, but they have never seen daddy's movies, so mummy makes movies and daddy makes pancakes,"

Gorden Gekko's stint as an at-home dad has proved perilous. While scuba diving in Spain, he was zapped by a jelly fish and had to ask son Dylan to take a wizz on him. He shared the moment with Jay Leno:

"My son was there. I said: 'Dylan, please pee-pee on daddy's back.'

"He kinda thought it was a trick question. So he peed and it helped but the problem was that for the rest of the summer he was looking for jellyfish."

Of course with celebrities, these dad stints never seem to last as long as the marriages they are in, he managed to sneak in one indy movie which opened a week or so ago and will start on his Wall Street sequel Money Never Sleeps when the sreenplay is ready at the end of the year.

[ref: The evening post, Nottingham via The Sun (uk).]

Posted by athomedad at 9:47 AM EDT
Updated: Thursday, 27 September 2007 9:51 AM EDT
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Wednesday, 26 September 2007
Steve Carell puts the home in the home office

Whats a real at-home dad movie with out those "tricky love triangles. "

The latest at-home dad flix starring our favorite office guy Steve Carell starts Oct 26th.

[advance reviews: Daily Film Dose, Dan's Real Life

Posted by athomedad at 1:45 PM EDT
Updated: Wednesday, 26 September 2007 2:59 PM EDT
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Tuesday, 25 September 2007
The Mr Mom Farwell Tour

The Mr Mom gang loses their lead singer Richie McDonald. 

[Farwell tour dates]

Posted by athomedad at 9:13 AM EDT
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Thursday, 20 September 2007
1996 article on the first at-home dad convention.

With the 12th At-Home Dad Convention coming up in Kansas, I thought I'd share my article on the first convention held on November 1996, reprinted in it's entirety from the hardcopy At-Home Dad Newsletter.

Men Who Change Diapers Change the World

by Peter Baylies

Reprinted from At-Home Dad, Winter 1996/1997, Issue 12

The Christian Science Monitor, The Baltimore Sun and The Milwaukee Sentinel-Journal were all clamoring to talk to them. The questions came in rapid fire, "What is it like to be an at- home dad?", "Did it bother you to be called a Mr Mom?", "What does your wife think of this arrangement?" One dad was asked, "How do you handle 5 kids all day?" The last question was posed to at-home dad Eric Rosenthal, who along with his wife, Ann, was attending the first ever At-Home Dads convention held in Chicago Nov 23rd.

When our researcher, Dr. Robert Frank, called me earlier this year with this brainstorm, I thought of it as an oxymoron... An At-Home Dad Convention? I didn't think dads across the country would get in their minivans without the kids to attend such an event. But it was worth a try. So Dr. Frank armed himself with a five page proposal, convinced the Oakton (IL) Community College board to hold this historic event.

It turns out Dr. Frank was on to something... his idea worked. Forty-five at-home dads did make the trip to Chicago. The group also included 7 couples, one of which was Eric and Ann Rosenthal. One reason this couple may have gotten the most attention from the media, was because they brought their five-month-old Daniel who was the only one wearing diapers at the convention. Even with forty-five dads milling around, it was relatively quiet to them, since they have 4 other children, ages 2,5,7, & 9, being watched by a sitter at their Cedar Rapids, Iowa, home.

Since I've never heard of an at-home mom convention being held, it was the first time any national convention was held exclusively just for parents who stay home with the kids. The night before the convention, I joined several dads at a local restaurant. Since many of the dads there participate in a weekly America Online chat, we felt like getting our keyboards out and "chatting", but settled for the real thing this time.

Those attending the dinner were Mike Bliss of Minneapolis, MN, (who brought his laptop and was proudly sporting a Kermit the frog watch); Steve Klem of Cocoa Beach, FL; Dennis Finley from McLean, VA; Bill Balmer from Waukegan, IL; America Online's at-home dads chat leader David Boylan of Glen Ellyn, IL. Also joining the group were two DAD-to-DAD chapter leaders Jim Mains from Oak Park, IL; and Casey Spencer of Encino, CA. Starting off the dinner, Casey toasted the wives for making all this happen. Later he expounded, "I don't often see many measurable, tangible benefits are in this activity for her, even though they exist. She gave up 3 days, though, and they were very valuable to me." Boylan echoes, "I think is too easy to forget what they (our wives) have gone through to get us to where we (as a family) are." Boylan also noticed that a Baltimore Sun reporter, Ken Fuson, was surprised that he didn't hear any wife bashing at the table. He said, "I thought that was cool. I've sat in many coffee clutches where the women bash their hubbies. We didn't even come close to that bitter idea. I'm proud of us." (After the convention the reporter spent the following week at home in Iowa with his kids, partly due to the convention's inspiration.)

The following day the crowd (some a bit tired after staying up til 2am), listened to the first speaker, Dr. Lynn Casper, of the Census Bureau. She explained the difficulty of tracking down exactly how many at-home dads there are, and determining how involved they may be. She joked, "Since there are 45 at-home dads in the room, I can only positively say there is between 45 and 1.9 million involved at-home dads in America."

Counting at-home dads who were unemployed, Dr. Casper shows that in 1993 there were 340,000 of us. With employed dads added to the mix, the estimate jumped to 1.9 million. These figures were all from families with working wives. In some cases, even though a dad could be working outside the home, he could still be the primary care-giver. For example, a fire fighter who may work his full 40 hour shift in two days, may find himself home the other five days caring for the kids while his wife works the full week.

From the many stats offered to the dads, they realized it was tough to figure how involved these dads really were and how many made the choice purely for the sake of the children instead of for economic reasons. Noting the number of questions Dr Casper has to ask in her surveys, Barry Reszel of Libertyville, IL mentioned to Dr Casper that the only question he has asked was to his 2 1/2 year old boy...Milk or Juice?

Bob Frank followed with info from our last survey showed that on average a couple would lose $27,000 of income when dad is at home. Dr. Frank recounted to the dads how one producer from CNN's Financial Network, (CNNfn) asked him. "Why would anyone stay home if they lost $27,000 income?" Dr. Frank stated, "She did not understand that we wanted to be with our kids and that the money wasn't the issue...." Ned O'Reilly, of Crystal Lake, IL, agreed, "I don't even think of lost income when I'm at home, it's not even an issue with me."

Of the convention, Frank noted, "I thought it was a great opportunity for stay at home dads to unite and network. I finally was able to meet many of the people that I'd previously only known through phone conversations or e-mail. It re-affirmed my belief that stay at home dads are a nice group of people. With dads flying in from across the country and some couples driving hundreds of miles to be at the convention, it confirmed our belief that stay at home dads are interested in this type of get together."

Speaker Bruce Drobeck, a marriage and family therapist from Dallas, TX, looked around at the media and remarked, "You know you have arrived when the media doesn't show up."

He then got the dads talking with a group discussion. Topics ranged from money matters to the ESPN2 cable channel (a lifesaver for one dad). The discussions brought many unanswered questions. On money matters, Jim Mains noted, "When I buy my working wife a dozen roses, who's money is it? It makes you think twice when you are paying $42 of her money to get flowers." Drobeck replied "The only guy who really afforded to be an at-home dad was John Lennon."

Mark Abraham, an at-home dad of just one month, wanted to know, "When is the honeymoon going to end?" Drobeck than asked for a show of hands on how many started "cold turkey", that is direct from work to home with no inkling of what the experience would be like. The room filled with hands. Seeing the response one dad noted that it took him one year to realize that by 5pm his shift was not over like it used to be at work." Steve Klem chimed in, that while we are at home we are always working, don't think we are not."

On the topic of isolation, Dennis Findley of VA said that to he "likes to take off one or twice a month by himself.. it really helps." Mike Coombs of Oak Park, IL, does almost the same thing with trips to the local library. Dr Drobeck's agreed and expanded on the idea noting that, "We also need individual time with the wife and time with the kids to balance out our new lifestyle. Some dads suffer in silence... we may have more in common with at-home moms than the traditional working dad. The nontraditional life style is a test of our marriage, and you really have to work together to make it work."

During the convention a separate DAD- to-DAD meeting was lead by chapter leaders Casey Spencer and Jim Mains who offered tips on starting and running playgroups. Mark Abraham was surprised and excited at the number of dads listed in the At-Home Dad Network and is ready to start up his own DAD-to-DAD group when he returns to his home town of Golden Valley, MN. Mark noted that he is "Interested in seeing a 'think tank' group identified to talk about any future activities on a regional/national basis." He added, "I've realized how important it was for me to come and meet the other AHDs in our world, and feel there are many others who would love to know a group like this exists." Mains noted, "It was so nice to be able to put faces with the names you have seen on the computer screen, newsletters, and television. The best thing was the mental stimulation! Obviously other dads felt the same, based on almost every session ended with fathers hands in the air wanting to ask another question."

After comments by myself on running home businesses and a speech by David Boylan on the importance of connecting with dads, Dr Frank ended the day by taking parenting questions and announced that Oakton College would like to host the 2nd convention (no date set).

As we left, Casey Spencer (a photographer by trade) took a group shot, and just like that 45 dads, 7 moms, (and one 5-month-old) were on their way back home to their kids for another year of baby wipes, diapers, spot cleaning, sinks filled with dishes, and of course, ESPN2.

Posted by athomedad at 4:48 PM EDT
Updated: Friday, 21 September 2007 1:03 PM EDT
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I can guarantee you this man will not be at the At-Home Dad Convention.

      Donald Trump has his word on at-home dads:

I’m impressed with these men and with their patience and dedication to their families, but I don’t think I could do what they do. I love my children but really like the world of business. I’d miss being in the middle of big-time deals too much if I gave up the boardroom for the playroom.

Yea but aren't those great big boardroom tables great for changing diapers?

P.S. Mr Trump, here's the latest info on the At-Home Dad Convention if you do decide to go.

                                        [ref: The Trump Blog ]

Posted by athomedad at 1:54 AM EDT
Updated: Thursday, 20 September 2007 2:06 PM EDT
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Wednesday, 19 September 2007
Zero Boss is back but probably not in the way you want.

Those that know Jay Allen's  zero boss blog would be surprised to see that yesterday's post on his
new blog goes something like this:

C# 3.0: Getting Dynamic  - Since I hyped a Ruby feature
in my previous post, I should acknowledge the ways in which C# 3.0 is making itself a more dynamic language.......The C# team is definitely going the extra mile to mimic many of the trends in modern languages, and get C# at least a little closer to NBL.

Well you get the idea:  Jay Allen is back, probably not in the way you  are used to but it's the way he wants.  He's living in Oklahoma, (by choice he writes) and is getting back to the life he wants. So from now on you can expect more of  Collections in .NET: Coding to the Highest Level of Abstraction.

Posted by athomedad at 3:56 PM EDT
Updated: Thursday, 20 September 2007 3:08 PM EDT
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Ford vs Verizon: the new daddy ad wars.
We are in the midst of a daddy ad war with Verizon sticking to their stupid dad ads in one corner, and Ford taking a realistic view in another . You may have remembered the ad aired shot 3 years ago by Verizon when they showed a confused looking dad helping his daughter do homework when his wife marches in and tell him to "leave her alone".  I had written how this commercial that had been airing for months with no complaints suddenly got the boycott treatment by Glenn Sacks, the host of his radio show His Side. AP's David Crary did a piece on it giving it  wide coverage Verizon finally caved in to the one-article week long media assault and pulled the ad.  Since then Verizon and Ford have been back and forth in an on-air daddy war. 
In the Spring of 06, Ford started their "bold moves campaign" where their research by JWT Detroit by showed  a reassessment of what people think of us today. What are our weaknesses? What are our strengths? Our research confirmed for us what we knew in our hearts. Ford's strength and identity are defined by three words: bold - American - and innovative.  Out of JWT's research comes this controversial spot shown below with dad spending a nice day at the beach with the wife & kids. Turns out we find out that the couple is divorced when she drops him off at his place the end of the day. He hugs his kids and mutters to his ex, thanks for inviting me this weekend, and is left alone until he sees his kids the next weekend.


Verizon came back in May of 06 with this this funny, but easily mis-interpreted "Daddy got Hosed" ad shown below. The play of words may not be as obvious as the Meet The Fockers Movie, but I'm sure the ad agency knows we might have done a double take upon the first viewing. Judge for yourself.


Ford, continuing with their "Bold" campaign actually gets it right with a dad actually caring for his from toddler to driver's license age. nicely done.

OK Verizon, Ford has one up on you,  you're next... lets see if you can show a little class too.

Posted by athomedad at 9:44 AM EDT
Updated: Wednesday, 19 September 2007 1:23 PM EDT
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Tuesday, 18 September 2007
Cool collapsible wooden thingys your kids want.

 We bought Jenga blocks a while ago, then lost a few of the original 54 pieces that came in the box (I finally found them after dusting under baseboard heater next to our kitchen table),  Then my wife bought another set at a yard sale for a buck, and we lost a bunch more. If you are missing some they are under your sofa, TV hutch and the refrigerator. Don't do the ruler thing under the refrigerator, there's too much dust, just pull it out and get 'em.

Then we got a third set for fifty cents, and kept piling them to the ceiling and losing a few more pieces. After getting sick of picking them up we started  knocking them over dominoes style, and the kids went nuts for the next two weeks. Now and then in an off moment I put a pile in front of them. Kids love this stuff.

                                    [deleted scenes below]

Posted by athomedad at 11:31 AM EDT
Updated: Tuesday, 18 September 2007 12:08 PM EDT
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