Friends are suppose to be forever right? Well not in this weeks advice! Two Gen ‘Xers find themselves in friendship limbo and Mike and Veronica offers them each sound advice on how to recover and move on.
Do you need some advice? Think that Veronica and Mike could help you see both sides of
your situation? If so, you may send Veronica and Mike an email here. I am 22 years old and have just returned to college for my final year before earning my degree. My problem is this . . . for the last three years I have belonged to a group of friends that are considered by my current class to be the "in" crowd. I have enjoyed being apart of this clique for several reasons. One, it is a real moral booster and two, you have access to people and things you normally would not have. However, I noticed that at the end of last term that my friends in the "in" crowd were becoming more and more callous towards me. They have even gotten to the point of talking behind my back and making comments with underlying undertones to my face. So when summer break came I was glad to go home and dreaded my return in the fall. I talked with my mother and she advised me that it was normal behavior between long time friends to go through rough patches and that I should just "ride it out." I can't see that happening in this situation. Should I just walk away from these friendships and start anew this year even if it means not being apart of the "in" crowd? Or should I take my mothers advice and "ride it out?"
Mike Says...
Veronica Says... Dear Veronica and Mike:Is this just happening to me or does everyone have the experience of losing contact with their closest friends after they get married? I mean one day we are laughing and as close as ever and the next thing I know we have lost total contact. This doesn't seem right and I feel left out in the cold. How do I fix this? Can it even be fixed? Veronica Says...
Mike Says...
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Dear Mike and Veronica:
Sincerely,
BBF
Sincerely,
Shivering
