Sacred Space In Relationship by Bonnie Cehovet I have just survived another encounter with Sacred Space in relationship. Just when you think you are home free - life rears its ugly head. Let's backtrack for a moment and define Sacred Space - then take a look at why it is necessary to nurture it in all areas of your life. When we create Sacred Space around us, we are defining who and what we are. We are saying: "This is what I will accept in my life, this is what I will not accept in my life. This is what I want respected, these are the gifts that I have to give." Once we have gone through the sometimes painful process of finding our centers and defining ourselves, we need to go through the ever more painful process of communicating this information to the people that populate our lives. We need to explain where our boundaries are, and that we expect to have them respected. Further - we need to listen as others explain their boundaries, and learn to respect them. One might think that once all of the above has been done - woo hoo, we are home free! Not so. We are layers of feelings, emotions and experiences. As one level becomes defined and cleared - another level comes into focus. While our core selves have not changed, our boundaries may as new experiences come to us. In trying to communicate the changes to the significant people in our lives, we may find ourselves suddenly saying: "You are not seeing what I am attempting to draw a picture of here. You are not hearing me." And if we take the time to listen - we may hear the significant other people in our lives saying this very same thing to us. Are we then simply reflecting back what we see in each other? I don't think so. I found this an empowering, if painful, experience. It tells me that both parties feel there is a lack of communication - or, more properly put, flawed communications. This is an empowering beginning - not an ending. It is a time to look within self, look at the source of the pain, and find healing. This is a time to surround yourself in unconditional love, and to expand that to the other person/people in your life. The most powerful thing that we can do in these situations is to tell the other person: "No matter what - my love for you is real. No matter what - I am not stepping back in this relationship. No matter what - this is something that can be worked out between us." This then is true Sacred Space - with all of it's moving boundaries, it's eddies and tides. This is life lived to the fullest - with love, not with recrimination. With love. caring and understanding. May this season find love and understanding being nurtured in your Sacred Space. Mitakuye Oyasin - For All Of Our Relations. (c)May 2001 See more posters Personal Lifestyle Reading - I offer a Personal Lifestyle Reading using Tarot that looks at past, present and future influences in your life, at the energies that are currently available to help you along your path, and at those energies that are appearing as challanges. My goal is to offer you insight into your decision making process, as well as tools that you can use to both better understand your path and make conscious, choice centered decisions. Home Personal Empowerment Personal Empowerment links Personal Empowerment articles View My Guestbook Sign My Guestbook Graphics by Art for the web