Grown ups?
Mood:  quizzical
Topic: Everyday life
I was talking to a friend who couldn't find anything boring enough to wear, because she wanted to be a grown-up. Her younger friends were all soo much more mature than her, and they always id-ed her and not her friends when they went to the club.
The next minute she said that being an adult ment knowing who you are, what your values are and what you want out of life. And you have to have kids and own your own home. I think that's a common mistake people make, assume that the first thing will lead to the other.
I told her that I don't care if my top's a bit too long for my sweater, and she replied "But that's your thing, to not care about anything like that".

Suddenly I felt very misunderstood. I know that that is how my longtime friends see me, like an fourteen year old going on thirty. But to me that just means that they don't know me at all. Yes, I do wear baggy pants when going for coffee but does that make me less mature? If I'm going somewhere fancy I try to dress accordingly. And yes, I might listen to lots of different kinds music. But does that make me less responsible? No, I don't think so. I pay my bills on time, I don't drink that often. I've tried to dress like a granny, but it only made me depressed, so why should I? Not even old people dress like old people any more.
I have friends of all ages, they don't seem to mind what kind of music I listen to. I'm starting to figure out my good sides and my bad. I'm know I'll never be perfect, but I'm still trying.
I think I'm starting to figure out what I can tolerate and what I don't stand. What kind of people I want to surround myself with. And I can still spend time with those who aren't exactly like me.
Okay, I might not know exactly how I want to end up, but who does? If we're going by that criteria, only about 5-10 % of the population would be grown-ups.