Re-Entering the Dating World
after diagnosis of herpes or AIDS
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Introducing Positive Singles:
A Safe Online STD Dating Forum - Develop intimate relationships based on honesty and trust
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Positive Singles is the largest STD dating service online. They cater to those with std's who may find
dating to be difficult with conditions such as herpes or AIDS. On the one hand, no one wants to put another at risk and on the other hand, the person with herpes or AIDS risks
being rejected or treated with fear if they reveal their condition.
This can feel like a catch-22 for someone with a sexually transmitted disease that is considered uncurable, such
as herpes and AIDS. Are people infected with the AIDS virus or the herpes virus supposed to be celibate the rest of their lives? Not realistic, especially in the very young. Safe sex is not 100% guaranteed not to spread the virus so what is a person of a young age to do?
One alternative is to date others who are also infected. This takes away any of the fear of telling your potential partner about your condition and risking rejection. It's on the
table from the beginning, when you go thru a site like Positive Singles. Everyone there is in some version of your same boat.
The fact that Positive Singles is online means you can take your time
getting to know someone, as long as you want, before you ever take the step to meet in person. People will say things in emails that they couldn't, or wouldn't, say in person. It cuts
through the social awkwardness to begin online. However, the danger of it being online is that extra precaution needs to be taken before meeting. One wise precaution is to set the first few meetings in very public areas with a lot of people around, and during the day.
On dating services in general: BE CAREFUL. Any type of service where you meet online is risky. Talk for a good long time. Get to know the person. If you choose to meet, pick a public location where there will be plenty of people. If you are a woman, don't have them pick you up at your home.
Meet them there. Get a voicemail phone. Don't give out your home phone. Just practice common sense.
For some, an actual date may not even materialize. It will be enough to meet others with herpes and realize that you are not alone. The support that can be realized in such a forum may be very valuable, especially if the diagnosis is new. You may learn from others what is helping them to control the condition, for example, as well as feeling emotionally supported by someone who understands what you are going through from personal experience.
In any case, here is a free dating service for singles with herpes:
About Positive Singles, in particular: This site is very cool. They have a blog, chat, success stories, an STD forum and more. They also have a very tough policy against spammers or advertisers. This is important on this type of site. Here's their policy:
Legal warning to spammers - we're aggressive about enforcing our policies:
We protect our members against spam (unsolicited mail and advertisements). If you are not registering for the sole purpose of making contact with another person for social purposes, please leave our site. We take strict legal action against those who abuse our site's purpose, as stated in terms and usage agreement.
Learn more about joining Positive Singles, which is free. If you have been diagnosed with herpes simplex virus, please read the free online article series on the subject of Living with HSV.