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 When you have decided to
get wed-locked with your partner and you want this marriage to be solemnized
before Registrar then come to me for consultation. Joining of souls
done here! More so helping lovers to get married.
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their bio-data. Anyone can send your bio-data to be listed here! Your
privacy would be maintained, your address will not be revealed
and any
other guidance received from you would be
strictly
followed.
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DON'T
COMPARE PARTNERS
Have you ever found
yourself comparing your current partner to someone from your past, and
finding your current partner lacking? Worse yet, have you found yourself
telling your current partner he or she is being compared to someone in your
past and falls short?
What is it we are really after when comparing current and former partners? Do
we want our current partners to be just like our exes? Probably not, or we
would still be in those relationships. I think when we are making a
comparison, we are really after something else. My hunch is what most of us
really want is to have our current partners meet some specific needs and
desires in the same, natural way as our past partners did.
Unfortunately, when we make this comparison between partners and then tell
our partner about it, he or she will probably not take the feedback well. In
fact, your partner will be very likely to feel angry, resentful, and to make
sure not to do what you want.
How can you, then, get what you want in a more effective way than causing
resentment and anger in your partner? How can you have your needs and desires
satisfied? It's simple, really. Just ask. But be sure to ask without making
your partner wrong for not already having met your needs.
Let's look at an example. Let's say you are not getting enough romance in your
current relationship, but had gotten plenty of it in your past relationship,
and liked it that way.
If you were comparing your current partner to your ex, you might say things
like, "Why aren't you more like X? He (or she) was so romantic. I would
get flowers and cards from him all of the time." Or, you might say,
"She was much more interested in romance and intimacy than you
are." Then you might finish with, "You are just not like him (or
her)," with a negative connotation in your voice.
As I said, after this kind of encounter, it's unlikely you will experience
romantic gestures from your current partner, even if he or she originally had
a desire to be romantic. Asking for your needs to be met looks very different
than comparing partners and making your current partner wrong.
You may say something like, "You know, I really like and appreciate
romantic gestures. Flowers or cards would make me feel loved and appreciated.
Physical intimacy would make me feel loved and connected to you. I would like
more of these from you. Can you do that for me?"
With an approach like this, you are much more likely to get what you want. So
stop comparing and start asking!
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