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Posting Guidelines for CFS-20s
What Can and Can't be Discussed on CFS-20s
These Guidelines may not be copied, distributed or altered without the express
permission of its Author.
As far as the List Owner and Directors are concerned no topic is too sensitive to be
brought up on CFS-20s, so long as everyone respects each other's points of view and
follows the rules laid down in the welcome letter that you would have received upon
joining the list (which can also be found HERE or obtained
by sending an e-mail requesting a copy of the rules to:
cfs-20s-request@maelstrom.stjohns.edu).
In the rules we state...
"CFS-20s is an e-mailing
list for 20-somethings with CFIDS/CFS/ME, their spouses or significant others, and
those with CFS/CFIDS/ME related conditions."
"20-somethings begin to encounter a whole new range of CFIDS-related problems.
These include (but are not limited to) marriage, engagement, dating (or not being
able to date due to health), financial, schooling, and career problems. This will
be the place to provide support and discuss hopes and fears relating to career
options, schooling choices, personal relationships, sexual issues, financial woes,
dependence on parents at a time one longs to be independent, etc. This will also
be the place for the significant others of CFIDS patients to receive support,
encouragement, and "coping" tips. It is a place for all involved to
discuss experiences, frustrations, and fears, in addition to providing an
environment to vent, ask questions, and receive help."
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We do not wish to start telling people what they can and can not discuss on this list.
We realize that some topics may be offensive to some people, but how can we possibly tell
what will and will not be offensive to any one of our members. Also if someone feels that
they are needing to vent about something, is it right for us to stop them because what
they say may offend somebody else on the list?
We believe that a lot can be gained by healthy discussion and the sharing of opinions.
Not only can people learn from each other and hopefully grow from the experience but many
of us here who have been out of society for a long time, no longer have the opportunity
to discuss ideas with other people, so maybe CFS-20s is a place to have that chance.
All we ask is that you take the following into consideration....
- Please be respectful of your fellow list members.
- Please realize that this list is available anywhere in the world and that its
members will come from different cultures, backgrounds, educational levels, religious
beliefs, etc. so will therefore have many varied views.
- People may have different ways of saying and expressing themselves to what you may
have, so something which you have taken to be insulting may not have been meant that way.
- If you disagree with something that has been said, by all means say so. But please
be respectful in your reply and explain why you disagree.
- If you want to enter into a more specific discussion with an individual, rather
than discussing something which may be interesting to the list as a whole, then please
do it via private e-mail.
- Nobody has the right to enforce their views or beliefs on anybody else.
- If something upsets you and you feel like you have to reply straight
away...*DON'T*...take a time out...sit on your hands, go to the bathroom, eat some
chocolate, whatever. It is better to reply with a cool head than with an angry one.
- If a topic or individual really upsets you, or if you think somebody has broken
one of the list rules, then please get in touch with either the
List Owner or one of the
Directors straight away.
- If you are worried that something you wish to post to CFS-20s may be too sensitive
an issue to bring up please send your message to the
List Owner or one of the
Directors for approval.
- Please remember that e-mail is a pretty emotionless medium. Something you may write
in jest may be read by others as an insult. This is why the culture of using smilies
and abbreviations such as IMHO (In my humble opinion), j/k (just kidding), etc. has
sprung up on the net.
For example: If I was to say "You should try this tablet", it sounds like I
am telling you that you *should* be taking it and this may be insulting to some people.
However, if I say "In my humble opinion it might be worth you trying this tablet",
then although it is essentially saying the same thing, it is far more friendly and less
hostile to the person reading it.
We do not want to have to act as censors to this list if we can help it. We do not feel
that we have the right to, nor in all honesty do we have the strength and energy needed
to decide which topics can and can not be discussed.
We are all adults here and we hope that we can discuss things in an adult way, without
the need for intervention.
However should anyone break any of the rules as laid out in the
List Rules, Commands, and Welcome Letter
we will not hesitate in taking the appropriate action.
Obviously we welcome any of your comments on this topic as this is your list also. So if
you have any views on this issue please get in touch with us.
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Posting Guidelines page.
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