RESPECT First & foremost remember that the Ppeople in these rooms are very
serious about Ttheir lifestyle. BDSM is consensual. NEVER force Yyourself upon
Aanother. Remember at all times there is a living, breathing Pperson on the
other side of the screen. Treat Tthem with respect, and Yyou will be honored
with the same in return. Again, no private chat should be initiated without
prior consent. And ALWAYS check profiles if they are provided. They are there
for a purpose and Yyou should always read them before chatting with the Oone
with whom Yyou wish to speak. Personally, I feel that Aall should make some
effort at a profile whenever possible.
Dom/me or sub? Are Yyou a Dominant or a submissive (sometimes referred to as Top or bottom)? look deep into Yyour
soul for the answer. When Yyou know the answer Yyou will need a name. Choose
one that reflects Yyour personality. Choose something original, as Yyour name is
the first thing Ppeople will notice.
Upper or lowercase? Capitalization is almost always exclusive to Dom/mes. If You are a Dom/me, the
first letter of Your name should be capped. You may like all caps better.
Either is acceptable. Dom/mes never use all lowercase letters in Their names.
Almost all submissives use lowercase lettering. A sub should never capitalize
themselves when saying i, me my..etc. and always cap the Dom/me when saying You,
Your, She, Him etc. This shows deference to the Dom/mes even in text. One
exception that I have found, is that in some rooms, Tthose new to the lifestyle
that haven't truly decided on Ttheir leanings toward D or s will sometimes
capitalize only the first letter of Ttheir name, but NEVER assume that this
means that Tthey Dom/mes or sub. When in doubt, ask. Mmost will respond in a
friendly manner to any question of this type, if asked in sincerity. Paying
attention to the deference to Oone another when in a new chat area will
usually reveal the use of caps in a particular room, as well as help Yyou get
to know the Ppeople there. And after all, that is what Yyou're there to do. As
a new sub, you should use lowercase just to avoid confusion.
GreetingsWhen addressing Eeveryone in a room, or making general statements,
include the capital and lowercase to indicate Yyou are addressing Dom/mes &
subs. This way no Oone is omitted from the query or comment. Wwe Aall make
typos but in cases of using lowercase in place of caps in speaking with
Ssomeone, it's best to correct Yyourself. ALWAYS address a Domme as Ma'am, or
m'Lady. Doms should be addressed as Sir, or m'Lord. Some Dom/mes consider the
use of the names Mistress or Master exclusive to Their own subs. Using them is
not recommend unless asked to do so, or until you, the sub, feel comfortable in
doing so or have seen it used regularly in the room in question.
ChattingThe best way to find a Dom/me or sub with whom Yyou may develope a
closer relationship, is to observe a chatroom. Just sit back and watch quietly.
Usually tidings of some type are made when Aanyone enters or leaves the room.
Think before Yyou comment of the goings on in a room. Yyou will see certain
Ppeople start to emerge from the crowd. If You are a Dom/me remember that the
sub has the right to terminate the conversation at their discretion. These are
real people, with very fragile emotions, and what You do or say could damage
them--so take extra care in Your dealings with them.
If you are a sub, it is never wise to offer yourself up to the room. This is
not showing respect for the Dom/mes or for yourself. Be patient, build the
trust. Treat this as you would in r/t. you are entrusting this Person with your
life. Learn about the Ppeople you are meeting. Choose carefully.
{Collars} A collared sub is someone who has chosen to give themself to ONE
Person exclusively. The collar may or may not be worn in their name. Examples
of collars are as follows: ADAM'S eve, or eve{A}. These collars are treated as
seriously as wedding vows. If one is collared, DO NOT attempt to approach them.
See them only as friends, and search elsewhere. The Oothers in the room are
very protective, and will not hesitate to berate Yyou publicly for harassing
them.
