A couple in Portland, Oregon made plans to be married. They weren’t church folks, apparently, because they found a minister on Craigslist.com who specialized in “last-minute weddings." A friend of theirs offered to officiate at the ceremony, but the couple discovered that their friend’s credentials were questionable.
So, they hired the online last-minute specialist, and she led a brief ceremony in the couple’s home. It turned into a disaster, because the “minister” stole the couple’s wedding gifts. They were remodeling their kitchen, so they asked their guests for Home Depot gift cards in lieu of regular wedding presents. At one point in the festivities the minister was alone in the house, and after she later took her leave, the couple noticed very few gift cards were left. Not wanting to accuse the minister – the one they found online at the last minute – the couple explored other explanations of what might have happened. Finally, the minister became a suspect, and a little detective work and a review of Home Depot surveillance cameras revealed the truth.
“If you can’t trust someone to officiate over your wedding, who can you trust in this world?” asked a detective involved in the case.
It’s a shame they had such a negative experience. It’s too bad they don’t take seriously the church and clergy. Hiring a minister to perform a religious service when there is no connection to the community of faith makes no sense to me. My view is that a wedding is an outgrowth of life in the Christian community, and that a bride or groom, or both, nurtured in the church, comes with her or his partner in life to seek God’s blessing on their love and commitment to each other. It’s all wrapped up in faith and faithfulness.
It’s difficult for me to see all of that playing out when a minister is called in to “do the wedding.” Sometimes when I hear about such an arrangement, I wonder, “Who’s using who?”
As one of my favorite professors in seminary used to say, “You pays your money and you takes your chances.”
Updated: Wednesday, 3 October 2007 6:05 PM EDT
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