4-20-05
I'll be updating this a little bit each day or a couple of times a day maybe.
We are back online.
Right now I have my right arm and thumb in a splint though
and I attempted to do dishes one handed. then I got tricky and decided that I could hold the glasses still with my right hand and my arm has started swelling and hurting again
so I'm done typing for now.
4-21-05
So here is me
and David's parents will be here in 4 days. As always my family is more than willing to wait until I feel better.
And now I will backtrack. For weeks now I have been dealing with tendonitis is my right arm. First the elbow got bad, my hands have been bad for awhile. The joints in my wrists have been killing me and the right one feels like it's dislocated,
from what I remember of that feeling. So the day before yesterday I took another fall, I've been doing that a lot lately. Josh & Scott insisted on staying home and taking me to the ER. They x-rayed my neck, collar bone and both wrists since that's where it hurt the most.
Everything looked fine except the wrist. The doc said the joint didn't quite look right, I forgot to mention that it had just been x-rayed a few days earlier at the doctor's office and he said it was alright, The ER doc had the radiologist look at it again and she said it didn't look right either
so it's in a splint now which has taken the pressure off and makes it feel so much better. He said it may have a hairline fracture that hadn't shown up on the x-ray yet and to have it x-rayed again in about a week. Things have not been getting done too well around here for awhile. I've been trying to keep the house
clean but having to iron shirts for the boys just about every day on top of everything else has really taken it's toll on me.
The next update will all be on Craig. I may start it today or I may wait until after he goes to court tomorrow afternoon.
4-22-05
All of this stress is just getting to be too much. David's parents are going to be here this weekend although we all expect them to show up early. The housing inspector will be here, again, sometime today but I have no idea when but probably within the next 30 minutes. Richard started coming around again, well once, and I am trying very hard to
bury the hatchet and it ain't easy, but now on top of all that I have to keep my mouth shut about his girlfriend and what she was doing when he wasn't at the bar. I don't actually have to but I will because I won't be the one to tell him. And right now Craig is in court.
More about Craig.
Or not in court. Chill out Rhonda. Craig got home from school 4 minutes before he was due
in court, ran in and changed clothes then were back home about 5 minutes later saying that the court date was a date to get a date, so now they don't go until the 8th. After all of the yelling that was just involved in him getting there on time. We went through all of the yelling yesterday too, but that's another story and I'll get to it eventually.
Craig was at the park one night with Vanessa, who lived next door to us on Craven, and her boyfriend, Justin. Craig came home with a very swollen lip and blowing blood out his nose and very MAD. He tried to tell us that he didn't know who hit him, just that someone tapped him on the shoulder and punched him in the mouth. Now we have all had this urge from time to time so I knew there had to be more to the story but he kept insisting that there wasn't. A few minutes later I hear all this ruckus outside and Craig goes bolting out the door. There are about 8 guys standing on the porch and loud voices so I zoom out there saying "What the hell is going on?!" right as they are all saying, "you should have kicked his ass Craig! I couldn't believe his dad hit you!", that sort of thing. I'm like, "back-up here, someone's DAD hit you?! ". So the other kids, who I don't know and a bunch of them that Craig didn't know either start telling me the story. One of them lives across the street from Justin and they were all outside at the time and saw what happened. It seems that Justin has a (very Craig like) younger brother, 'bout 13 years old or so. He kept bothering them and bothering them and saying things to piss Craig off, wouldn't quit no matter what anyone said and finally said something derogatory about Craig's parents, so Craig, in his infinite wisdom, pops the kid on the back of the head. Left a red mark on his neck. So he runs in tattling to daddy, daddy comes out and punches Craig in the mouth. Craig behaved though, said he knew better than to fight him so he came home. Once David gets done with his raving he goes to the P.D. So the cop goes to Justin's house and WRITES THE GUY A TICKET! Then comes back and writes Craig one too and says they have to go to court on the 22nd at 4pm. So David asks him, "you mean it's alright if I go hit the guy myself then, I would just get a ticket?" and the cop says, "no, I'd arrest you". David was all, "no, I'd just want a ticket too"..... and the cop says it's up to the cop to decide whether or not to arrest the person. He hit a MINOR, ya know? The cop says they have to go to court to determine whether or not to press charges. yesterday david ran into another of our former Craven Ave. neighbors who used to be the dispatcher here but works for the D.A.'s office now, tells her the story and she said he should go up there before the 22nd and see about pressing charges, didn't sound right to her at all. Leaves us wondering if the cop & Justin's dad know each other. The following Monday at school Justin told Craig that after the cops left his dad punched him too. He was afraid Craig was going to beat him up and Craig told him that it's not his fault what his dad or brother do, they are still friends. Oh and the dad told the cop that he thought Craig was an adult. He KNOWS Craig, has even asked him before how old he is. I guarantee it's all because Craig is 6'6". So I'm thinking I should go to the school and get a copy of his non-existant disiplinary record to take to court, just in case. Oh, and the kids who saw it gave statements.
And David's parents just pulled up.
4-24-05
So anyway.......
Did I mention that Craig got his driver's license? His birthday was on March 25th and even though I had a March Stuff page it seems to have disappeared. I think we were without internet at the time.
And in the last of the Craig news, he had to have an ingrown toenail removed.....again.....last week. Then a couple of days later he had to go back so the doc could try to dig something out of his heel. It doesn't keep him down though.
4-25-05
David's parents will be leaving in the morning and it will be none too soon. They have managed to spread their particular brand of good cheer to everyone. They have always been the best at showing favoritism and this time is no exception unless you count that it's hurting David worse than it ever has before. They are staying with David's brother Danny and that doesn't break our hearts, we don't have room for guests and he lives alone. But the favoritism they show toward Danny is just ridiculous at times.
Example:
The neighbor across from us has a little car for sale that David has been wanting to buy to get back and forth to work. He can make it to work 3 times and home 2 times in the truck on a tank of gas so with these prices it costs between $60 and $70 to fill the truck. We have mentioned the fact that David has been wanting to get a loan for this car several times and have even pointed it out to them while we have been sitting on the porch. So yesterday Danny spotted it and said that he thought it would make a great car for him to drive to work and their dad jumps up and drags Danny over to look at it right then and there because he agrees. But of course it wasn't good enough for Danny, it has 100,000 miles on it. (Our truck and van both have over 200,000 miles on them.)
Example:
David cooked a brisket yesterday (bbq and smoker) it's the thing to do here in Texas. He was up half the night with it and, David doing the work because of my arm, we made potato salad. I knew they wouldn't like the potato salad but they were at least polite enough to not say so. I don't like his mom's potato salad any more than she likes mine so we're even. Josh and Scott had to work yesterday. So as we are putting the food on the table Danny calls friends of his to come over and eat. Would have been nice to be consulted first. Craig picked up on the look on my face and asked me what that look was for in front of everyone. LOL I said it was nothing, just that I needed to put some food in the fridge for the boys since they were at work. So rudeness aside, even the friends get treated more like family than we do. And get this, I get treated like I'm a bad mom because I don't have any stories of knocking the crap out of my sons for getting up in my face or stories of them getting in trouble with the law (other than Craig's current situation)!!! How twisted is that?! Excuse me for having my kids respect. Sheesh! So anyhow, tonight we are all expected to go to Danny's house because he is buying a store bought, pre-cooked brisket. How insulting is that?
They also show favoritism toward Craig and have ever since he picked up his first wrench.
Example:
As soon as they get here they hand Craig money. The other two work, no big deal. Then they make a big deal that they have something for him in the van but have to dig it out later.
The something turns out to be three seashells (no Demolition Man jokes here folks). Their about as big as your hand, you can probably hear the ocean in them. It's not the gift, it's the idea that there are 3 of them. Why not just give one to each boy to remind them of their grandparents? I mean, it's almost like a slap in the face. Josh and Scott don't know about them, they've gotten their feelings hurt enough through other little gestures.
And every time they start in about David's younger brother Sammy, how wonderful he is and the things he has bought them I just want to scream, "that must be why he can't afford to pay the $85 a month for his kids health insurance!" or "that must be why he has never been able to pitch in on his kids education costs". School in Ohio isn't free. Then add that 2 of the kids graduate college and one graduates high school this year. He is such a horrible father and has his parents so fooled. I can't say anything because they would just say that his ex-wife and kids are liars. We've been subjected to very little about the other pet, David's sister Signe. They haven't even mentioned his other sister, Mary, at all. Her and David are the spares, ya know? I do what I can to keep the peace since their visits are always so short (more important people to visit, like friends) and only happen every 3 years. I figure we can make it through. But my sons have so
much hurt festering in them that it's not easy. And just once I wish our nieces and nephew in Ohio would tell them the truth about their father but their mom won't let them. She has always gone out of her way to not bad mouth him to the kids because she knew he would end up hanging himself one day, which he has, but of course he lays the blame on the kids and his ex.
O.K., just needed to unload some of that.
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