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Recovery from Incest and Rape

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Incest Survivors
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Midni ght Secrets
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Personal Stories
Butte rflies
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Ghost Wolf - Out of the Abyss
Warriors of the Heart - Male Survivor Page

Rape Survivors
Faces In the Dark
Garyp - A Survivor - Home/Index
Our Date Rape Help Page
Parents & Loved Ones of Abuse & Rape Survivors
The Survivor's Page

initmacy = in-to-me-see

Keep the focus on your Self

Practice makes better

Feelings are not facts

When in doubt, leave it out

Pain heals; abuse scars

Act, don't react

Say what you mean; mean what you say Live and let live

"DID: Do it differently

Try to become the person you'd like to come home to

How important is it?

Who am I?
What do I want?
What do I need?

It either will or it won't

Where I am right now is exactly where I should be I am enough

Try not to be a persecutor, victim or enabler

Evil is live spelled backwards

The three A's:
Awareness, Acceptance, Action

The three C's:
We didn't cause it
We can't cure it
We can't control it
Hi and welcome to my site!
In getting sober and learning to look at where we came from sometimes some painful memories can surface. I hope this page has some helpful information. We will be having a survivor chat in one of our chat rooms if you would like to be added onto the list for information on this please feel free to email me.

ACOA Incest 12 Steps to Recovery

1. We became aware that we were powerless over and blameless for the circumstances of our childhood, and that our lives had become unmanageable.

2. We admitted to the truth of our origin, and came to trust that a Power greater than ourselves would nurture, love and restore us to sanity.

3. Made a decision to begin a process of recovery and change, trusting in a Higher Power of our own understanding to care for us and guide us in our journey.

4. Began an inventory of all that happened to us in our childhood, acknowledging how it affected us then, and how it affects us now. We also allowed ourselves to uncover and experience the feelings we had repressed and denied for so long.

5. We admitted to our Higher Power, to ourselves, and to another appropriate person, the truth of our feelings, attitudes and behaviors, and began to feel validated and accepted for who we are at this moment.

6. Became willing to allow changes in our attitudes and feelings, and to make changes in our choices, decisions, and behaviors, with the help of our Higher Power.

7. Made a list of all those who had hurt us, identified what was done to us, and allowed ourselves to validate, own, and understand the resulting feelings.

8. Became willing to forgive those who had harmed us, and to let go of the past.

9. Recognizing that our own attitudes and behaviors were imitative of our dysfunctional caretakers, and harmful not only to ourselves but to those around us, took responsibility for them and made appropriate amends where necessary.

10. Continued the process of discovery and recovery, making changes in our lives when necessary, and, recognizing and celebrating our specialness and uniqueness, became capable of self fulfillment.

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with our Higher Power, striving to allow that will and ours to become one and the same.

12. Having achieved a Spiritual Awakening, characterized by a balance and harmony with ourselves, those around us, and our Higher Power, we became willing to share our experience and hope with others like us, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
copyright Aug. 15, 1988 Michael Farrell

If you would like to send some recovery stories please feel free, I will start another section of pages.

We are not to "blame" if we accept responsibility for our feelings

Things got worse, things got better, and things got different

Everything after the word "But" cancels out everything before it.

Anger, guilt, and fear become strength, hope and experience

"Awareness...It is impossible to be present with life if your needs aren't met or you're addicted to a substance or behavior. All you are present to is yourself, and even that's questionable."

Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.

The definition of addiction..."anything that takes the place of my relationship with my Higher Power."

If I'm the one to notice there is a problem.......then I'm the one to do something about it...if I'm involved in the problem!

I Try to Take One Day at a Time, But Sometimes Several Days Attack Me At Once by Ashleigh Brilliant

  Thank you for visiting my page. I hope you were able to find information that helped you. Please feel free to contact me Eagles Mailbox if there is something specific you are looking for and I will try and add it to my site. In the meantime take care, and remember to take it One Day At A Time.

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