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Homosexuality Outreach


Are you gay, homosexual,lesbian, bisexual, transexual etc...? Well, I want to welcome you to my personal website from my personal experiences and friendship with people that have a similar background. I honestly never been homosexual, but I have had thoughts about it. They were basically "stuff" that runs in your mind coming out of nowhere. As a Christian (see personal testimony), I want to show my love towards homosexuals through this website. Please let me know how I could be a resource to you through prayer, needs, or just someone to talk with.

Of all my homosexual friends, I've found a common trend. It happened in the past when they were young and was sexually abused by someone they knew. It's very sad that this had to happen. Feel free to share me your stories or what you think about this?

Below is a case study sent to me by e-mail from a christian brother in the Twin Cities with my response:

Case Study 1:

Your longtime friend, Darnell, comes to you one day and wants to talk. He is not a Christian, and has shown little interest in matters of faith. Recently, however, he has begun to ask searching questions about the meaning of his life. He respects your faith, and is willing to listen to you.

�I just heard some preacher on the radio,� he says, �going on about homosexuality. What is it with Christians and homosexuality? Doesn�t the Bible prohibit all sorts of things that we do everyday? I seem to remember that the Bible says you can�t wear clothes made out of two kinds of fabric, or eat shellfish or pork. And doesn�t the Bible also say women can�t wear gold or pearls? Why is homosexuality such a big deal then? You know I�m not a homosexual, but I don�t see why it has to be such a big issue. What�s the difference between that and the other things that are prohibited?�

What would you say to Darnell?

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Response #1:
The Bible is more than what is or what isn't prohibited. The Old Testament (before Jesus' time) was a book of laws-on what you can or you can't do. That is why Jesus came, to take place of the law. Below is an argument between Paul and Peter over the Jewish custom/law on "circumsision" that is similar to the list of "prohibition" mentioned in the Old Testament:

11When Peter came to Antioch, I opposed him to his face, because he was clearly in the wrong. 12Before certain men came from James, he used to eat with the Gentiles. But when they arrived, he began to draw back and separate himself from the Gentiles because he was afraid of those who belonged to the circumcision group. 13The other Jews joined him in his hypocrisy, so that by their hypocrisy even Barnabas was led astray. 14When I saw that they were not acting in line with the truth of the gospel, I said to Peter in front of them all, "You are a Jew, yet you live like a Gentile and not like a Jew. How is it, then, that you force Gentiles to follow Jewish customs? 15"We who are Jews by birth and not 'Gentile sinners' 16know that a man is not justified by observing the law, but by faith in Jesus Christ. So we, too, have put our faith in Christ Jesus that we may be justified by faith in Christ and not by observing the law, because by observing the law no one will be justified. 17"If, while we seek to be justified in Christ, it becomes evident that we ourselves are sinners, does that mean that Christ promotes sin? Absolutely not! 18If I rebuild what I destroyed, I prove that I am a lawbreaker. 19For through the law I died to the law so that I might live for God. 20I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. 21I do not set aside the grace of God, for if righteousness could be gained through the law, Christ died for nothing!"-Galatians 2

As mentioned in verse 14 and 17, we are not entitled to obey what the law says. However, our faith and relationship (see personal relationship) in Jesus Christ is what it all brings down to. From our faith in Him, the "meaning of life" is to totally trust and depend in Him glorifying-worshipping Jesus with all our heart (Romans 12). Our actions is the fruit of all this, and what we do (lifestyle) is the result of all this (see purpose in life).

The Bible (see bible testimony) was written more than as a law, but a "love letter" from our Heavenly Father. He is a "justified" and "loving" God, who just wants to best for us-like how a real father treats his son or children.

The difference between "homosexuality" and the others the Bible prohibits can be answered through Scriptures-what God says is more than what man, religion, or even any particular church (man can't judge, which many Christians tend to do) says. Ask Him yourself (Matthew 7:7)! Below are some Scripture verses that you search for "key words-homosexuality" (other issues in life):

Bible Gateway

  1. Genesis 19
  2. Romans 1
  3. 1 Corinthians 6:9

God loves the "sinner", but he hates the "sin"

Galatians 5

"...that's all of us"

Below are some Scripture verses, but you need the whole context of the Bible instead of taking verse by verse literally. God's greatest commandments is to "love God" and "love neighbor" (sex, gender, race, class, etc...), which if we do just both of these-life issues like homosexuality woldn't be such a big deal.

Past Stories

I went to high school with folks that I had a feeling were "gay", but I really never had the chance to interact with them as I was in my own "clique". Then when I went to school at UMM, I started to meet more and more of them. Over my 4 years, I learned how to be "open" and "compassionate" towards them. One time I was with a friend and he told me "out of the blue" that he was "gay". I was at first shocked, but then I started to absorb the reality as I reflected on some past times of hanging out and notice some "clues". I kind of lied that "I knew that". I'm still friends with him and trying to just be the same friend I was before he told me he was gay.

I have another friend of mine that moved out of state for personal growth with God that was "bisexual". He told me this after a week living with me. I was shocked at first too, but just kept loving him as a friend. He would later leave his bisexual lifestyle as he grew in his loving personal relationship with Jesus. I'm not sure if he completely left, but it's between him and God as I still keep him in my prayers.

Just recently, I met a lesbian couple, which I've met in the past. However, I'm getting to know them more than the others I've met in the past. I'm just going to "keep loving them" as I was reminded by a Christian brother in mind that left that lifestyle. He is part of Exodus Ministries (see down below), which I was referred to this website after chatting with him during a break at City Hills' Regional Leadership Conference awhile back. I'll probably give an update on this story down the road. Till then, I'm just going to keep growing in my personal relationship with God to shine more of Jesus' light to the people He puts in my path day to day!

Below are some links to some resources that might help better understand and love homosexuals, like any other human being.

Reccomended Resources




  • Queer Student Cultural Center, University of Minnesota-Twin Cities

  • *referred by a friend (8.27.07)

  • Eagles Wings Ministry, based in Arden Hills-Minneapolis
  • Keys Ministry, based in Waite Park, MN

  • Outppost Ministry, Minneapolis based-helping people with homosexuality


    Former lesbian says her life was changed by love by Bryan Malley

    "TWIN CITIES - "Christians need to know what draws a person into the gay lifestyle and what they can do to help people break free of it," Janet Boynes, a former lesbian and founder of Janet Boynes Ministries, said.
    Boynes experienced and witnessed abuse at the hands of four men who fathered seven children with her mother.
    "Determined to avoid the same fate for myself, I became a tom-boy," Boynes said. "I hung out with guys and became known as a bully."
    Boynes moved from Philadelphia, Penn., to St. Paul to attend college and became a Christian. She later became engaged to a Christian man and the couple enrolled in pre-marital counseling at their church. Boynes' fianc� traveled a lot so she spent a lot of time with her girlfriends.
    "When a girl I'd met at work initiated a sexual relationship one night, I was caught off guard and went along with it," Boynes said. "Immediately I knew how Eve must have felt. Condemned."
    When Boynes revealed her experience to her pastor, he told her the wedding would have to be canceled. She then told her fianc� everything, the couple split up and Boynes embraced the gay lifestyle.
    "I never found the satisfaction I was looking for in the gay lifestyle," she said. "Instead, I went from relationship to relationship to relationship and became totally confused."
    Boynes and her partner sought the advice of a priest and he assured them her lesbian lifestyle was OK, but Boynes continued to wrestle with her conscience and her past Christian life. Fourteen years passed, and Boynes eventually moved to Maple Grove. Whenever she drove past the Maple Grove Assembly of God church, Boynes claims an inner voice would tell her that someday she'd be going to that church.
    "The idea stayed with me even though I was doing drugs, cheating on my steady girlfriend, suffering from an eating disorder and extremely unhappy," she said.
    One night, Boynes ran to the grocery store and noticed a woman in the parking lot with her groceries at 3 a.m. The woman had been helping her son move into the dorms at North Central Bible College so Boynes knew she was a Christian.
    "We talked and talked, and then she invited me to come to her church-Maple Grove Assembly of God," Boynes explained.
    Boynes accepted the invitation and later attended a Bible study at the church with nine "feminine women" who showed her love and gave her pointers on how to dress and apply makeup.
    "They educated me about spiritual warfare and helped me break the stronghold the devil had erected over my life," Boynes said.
    She sold her home and moved in with a Christian family for a year.
    "Gradually my mess became the message of salvation," Boynes said. "It was a real struggle, but I wanted God more than I wanted the lesbian lifestyle."
    Six years later, Boynes still has to pray daily and seek accountability so that she won't slip back into her former lifestyle. She explained that many gays and lesbians "hate" Christians because they feel condemned.
    Recently, she founded Janet Boynes Ministries to share her testimony with those who want and need to hear it.
    "Through Janet Boynes Ministries, we hope to minister to the homosexual community by sharing the love of Christ and the power of the testimony of a life changed by that love," Boynes said.
    The new organization will also "help churches learn how to reach those struggling with homosexuality and to increase societal awareness on the fact that sexual orientation is a choice."
    Boynes will be hosting the first ex-gay booth at the National Education Association convention in Orlando, Fla. on June 29.
    "I know God wants me to speak out about these things," Boynes said. "After all, everybody wants the same things: love and acceptance. When God calls us out of darkness and into light (1 Peter 2:9), He calls us in love."
    For more information about the newly formed Janet Boynes Ministries, contact Janet at The Web site will launch near the end of June. "
    -Minnesota Chrisitan Chronicle



  • "Homosexuality and the Bible", by Freeing the Spirit ministries
  • "What About Gays Needs to Change? It may not be what you think! ">, article by Tim Wilkins of
  • Entertainment

  • Ellen Degeneres Show

  • Related:
    Ellen DeGeneres' abuse nightmare, from female first (United Kingdom)
    " US comedienne Ellen DeGeneres has revealed she was sexually abused by her stepfather as a teenager
    Ellen says she was around 16 when the terrifying ordeal began - which started with her abuser fondling her under the guise of a breast examination, before developing into more serious abuse
    She said: "It started, then a few weeks later he tried to do it again And I kept saying, 'No! No! You can't keep doing this ' But, it escalated into other things"
    Ellen also claims her late stepfather once tried to break into her bedroom so he could molest again - forcing her to run away in a bid to escape
    She added in an interview with America's Allure magazine: "He tried to break down the door to my bedroom
    "I had to kick a window out and escape and sleep in a hospital all night"
    Ellen DeGeneres can be seen in her chat show 'Ellen' weekdays 10.00am and 4.00pm "

    Gay Gene?

  • "Born Gay? Fact or Fiction?", from Eagles Wings
  • Homosexuality: Nature, Nurture, & Compassion
  • My Genes Made Me Do It by Neil and Briar Whitehead (Huntington House Publishers, 1999) 233 pp, "genetics in homosexuality. Genes don�t make you do it. There is no genetic determinism, and genetic influence at most is minor. Anyone who says homosexuality is dictated by genes doesn�t know enough science.�
  • Books:

  • "Joining the Tribe", by Linnea A. Due
  • *read this my junior year at UMM's Sociology: "Sex & Gender" class
  • "Setting Love in Order", by Mario Bergner
  • *currently reading this as of 11.24.03


  • Christian Resources about Homosexuality and Aids
  • Eagles' Wings Ministry,Arden Hills-MN based also helping with homosexuality

  • Exodus International, want freedom?
  • Keys Ministries, Minnesota rural based-unlocking the chains of homosexuality
  • Living Hope Ministries,when it comes to homosexuality, in Jesus, we have the freedom to Change
  • Outppost Ministry, Minneapolis based-helping people with homosexuality

  • Quest Ministries,offering support and love to those who do not want to be homosexual
  • Resolving Homosexuality,for Christian men seeking a biblically faithful res.
  • Movies

  • Women Thou Are Loosed, an african-american made-movie that brings about all types of social issues (e.g. abuse) that is for all mature audiences
  • Resources

  • Christia$ Resources about Homosexuality and Aids
  • *Note: I have friends (one of them I met at UMM), relatives, and other people that I interact now and then who are "openly gay", which that doesn't change my relationship with either of them. God loves them and I love them, which what they do is between them and God themselves.


    "Confused Feelings"

  • NickPaul, from sloppynoodle
  • Monday, September 12, 2005 (CBN)
    Paul King, a musician that was molested by his music teacher. He was looking for a �father�, but wasn�t able to get it in from his dad. His dad practice the occult and opened doors to the spiritual realm in his house. He gave his life to Christ at a special church service. Then he came home and did the �Lords� Prayer�, which closed the doors to the spiritual realm. He was delivered from homosexuality!...more
    Testimony of A Former Homosexual

    "The Day of Truth shows the testimony of someone that has come out of a life with homosexuality."

    From the NFL to hell and back...Jesus set him free

    Related Sites:
    Gay Ex-NFL Player Public Again Lineman Roy Simmons Breaks His 12-Year Silence (2006 Update: Simmons on which NFL player he would "do," kill and marry) Also: Simmons accuses NFL of discrimination) By Jim Buzinski
    "The article also weaves in the difficulty of being black and gay--the �Down Low� concept where black men live a deeply closeted gay or bisexual life. It also delves into the familiar territory of how hard it is to be a gay professional athlete. "The N.F.L. has a reputation," Simmons said, "and it's not even a verbal thing--it's just known. You are gladiators; you are male; you kick butt."
    NFL's Simmons Speaks of Former Gay Lifestyle and New Faith in Christ By Andrew Knox The 700 Club
    "Roy believed God wouldn�t accept him as he was.
    "When you�re out in sin," Simmons explains, "you really feel like you cut yourself off. You�re ashamed that 'oh, look what I�m doing. I can�t go to Him like this. I can�t go to God in prayer.' "
    He surfaced briefly, making his appearance on Donahue. A few years later, a doctor gave Roy a grim diagnosis.
    "He called me in, and he gave me the results," he remembers. "My knees buckled. He told me that my tests came back positive. I guess the initial thought was I�m going to die. I�ve known people, some of them a month, and then they�re gone."
    Upon learning that he was HIV positive, Roy felt hopeless, like he was just waiting around to die. That's when he made a desperate call to best friend Jimmy Hester and decided to move to Martha�s Vineyard. There a remarkable physical and spiritual cleansing took place.
    Jimmy Hester is also HIV positive. He went to the Martha�s Vineyard Holistic Retreat because of his HIV. He has made great strides with his physical health, but he also found something he never expected � a relationship with Jesus Christ. That relationship started soon after a Bible study invitation by his doctor, Roni Deluz.
    Now Roy is also meeting with Dr. Deluz, and he�s feeling great. He was recently baptized.
    Roy's pastor, Marcia Buckley, who quickly notes Roy's hunger for God, says, "One thing that he appreciates is the fact that he�s alive in the Lord and that God has given him a chance to live."
    Roy has learned much from his pastor about his former lifestyle.
    "We spoke on and learned about homosexuality and the connotations and everything that go along with it. It's really against God�s will," Roy states. says bluntly.
    Roy devotes himself to the Lord and to purity. He has not been sexually active in more than three years. says bluntly.
    "All that lying and cheating and all that backbiting and all that deceitfulness � I don�t practice that," he says bluntly.
    Roy is eager to study the Word of God and to grow closer to the Lord."

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