11-13-99 - I'm sure you all know that quote about letting something
you love go. The quote that says if it comes back it was meant to be, and
if it doesn't come back, then you're a loser. Well, maybe that's not the
exact quote, but however the quote goes, I think it's pure bullshit. Don't
let something you love go, whether it's a friend, a relative, a boyfriend/girlfriend,
or any kind of relationship possible between two people. If you're having
problems, a disagreement, an argument, or other stuff in your life is getting
to you, don't let your relationship with this person go. If you don't like
someone, then I understand where letting the person go comes into play.
But if this person truly means something to you, fix the problems you may
have with them. Let them know how you feel. But certainly don't tell them
that it's not worth being in a relationship (whether it be friend or other...).
I understand that sometimes people can make you upset and that you say
things you don't mean. That's when you apologize. You should always
make your friends feel appreciated. If they don't seem their regular
self, maybe something came up in their life. Maybe they're having trouble
at home or in school. You'll never know these things until you ask. Don't
just assume the person wants nothing to do with you. Hell, don't assume
anything. There are times, however, when things just don't work out the
way you wanted them to. I honestly don't think that you should end things
with the person. I think that both people should know the right way to
act. If both people put time and effort into a relationship, there's no
reason it should end. I realize mistakes that I've made in past relationships.
Although I know that it's never too late to try and make things work out,
I'm afraid. It's a shame that I can't take my own advice, but what if I
get hurt again? I'm afraid that the other person will mean more to me than
I mean to him or her. I'm afraid that maybe the person doesn't want anything
to do with me ever again. I'm afraid that maybe the person really did mean
all the things he or she said to me. Because maybe, just maybe they really
don't want to have any contact with me whatsoever. Or maybe they
haven't realized the things that I have. But here's my point. Treasure
the friends you have. Make them feel appreciated and they'll do the same
for you. If they need you, then be there for them. One day you might need
them. If they want to hang out with you, then hang out with them. One day
you might need them. If they need someone to talk to, then listen. One
day you might need them. Don't deny anyone the right to be friends with
you. Don't hold grudges against anyone you've ever had a friendship with.
There is a lot more to friendships, or any relationship, then just saying
hi. Make it a point to be active in your friends lives. Know what's going
on, know what they're thinking or what they're doing over the weekend,
know their hopes and dreams. Most importantly, don't end a relationship
over something petty. Just remember, you never realize the good things
you have, until you don't have them anymore...
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