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~ Does The Person You Love ~

  • Track all of your time or check up on you often as if you are not trusted?

  • Constantly accuse you of being unfaithful and sleeping around?

  • Discourage your relationships with family and friends?

  • Prevent you from working, attending school or going out?

  • Criticize you for little things, like you can not do even simple things right?

  • Totally ignore you or your children, like you are not even there?

  • Control all finances and force you to account for what you spend?

  • Let you and children go without basic needs like groceries, utilities, phone?

  • Keep the phone locked up or take it with when they leave?

  • Destroy personal property and sentimental items?

  • Call you names and humiliate you either in private or in front of others?

  • Treat you and any children like you are property?

  • Tease, abuse, hurt or even kill your family pets?

  • Keep you or your children from getting even basic medical care?

  • Drinks or does drugs then gets angry or violent?

  • Blame you for the anger and abuse, everything is your fault?

  • Tell you that you're crazy or say the abuse never happened?

  • Hit, punch, slap, kick, bite, burn, push, trip or use any other physical force on you or your children?

  • Threaten to hurt you, your children, your family or friends?

  • Use or threaten to use a weapon against you or others you care about?

  • Force you to have sex with them, or others against your will?

  • Have they knowingly given you a sexually transmitted desease?

  • Threaten to kill themselves, or someone you care about if you leave them?

  • Are you scared, often worried, can't relax or always on guard, being very careful of all you do or say?

~ What Do Many Abusers Have In Common ~

  • Low Self-Esteem ~ insecure and unsure of themselves but usually present a different picture to others.

  • Traditional Sex-Role Expectations ~ They will get angry that you can't live up to their unrealistic ideals.

  • Jealousy & Control ~ Not out of caring, from insecurities and feeling they have the right to control you with force.

  • Abusive Backgrounds ~ Many witnessed or were abused as children and feel it is acceptable behavior.

  • Blames Others ~ They will usually blame everyone or everything but themselves.

  • Denial ~ They do not want to accept responsibility for thier own choices and behavior.

  • Abuse Alcohol Or Drugs ~ Which lowers inhibitions and may intensify abuse but, it is not the reason they abuse.

  • Mental Or Emotional Problems ~ Some violent people may have untreated mental or emotional health problems.

~ Why Does Violence Continue ~

  • Lack Of Alternatives ~ Victims of abuse may be dependent on the abuser and feel powerless to escape.

  • Shame ~ Victims may feel helpless, worthless, guilty or ashamed and scared to trust those who could help.

  • Isolation ~ No where to turn, abusers work hard to get their victims isolated without any support system.

  • Hopes And Dreams ~ They enjoy some good times and may be in love, but without help abuse usually gets worst.

  • Finances ~ Money is often a problem in leaving, especially when children are involved.

  • Children ~ Thinking it is best to raise them with both parents and they are not effected by the abuse.

  • Threats ~ The abuser may threaten to kidnap the children or get custody of them.

  • Knowledge ~ May feel alone and not know there is help available to them.

  • Promises ~ Abusers will promise everything, they know just what their victim wants to hear.

  • Responsibility ~ Many victims feel it is their responsibility to change and help the abuser.

  • Normal ~ Victims who witnessed abuse as a child know nothing else, to them it is normal.

  • Low Self-Esteem ~ They are broken down and do not have the self-confidence for decision making.

  • Religon ~ Many believe they have to stay under any circumstances because of religous beliefs.

  • Protection ~ Afraid police or courts will not be able to give then the protection needed.

  • Fear ~ They are scared of what their abuser would do to them or others they care about, if they left.

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