SEX, LIES AND VIDEOTAPE
Date: 06-15-1995; Publication: Magill's Survey of Cinema
The story is set in Baton Rouge, where Ann Millaney (Andie MacDowell) lives with her husband, John (Peter Gallagher), a successful attorney. The film opens with Ann discussing her latest anxieties with her therapist (Ron Vawter). An old college friend of John, Graham Dalton (James Spader), is arriving soon for a visit, and Ann confesses that she is uncomfortable at the prospect of his stay. She also mentions that she is currently unwilling to make love to her husband, and she believes that he has also lost interest in her. Unbeknown to Ann, John is having an affair with her sister, Cynthia (Laura San Giacomo), a sultry, sexually uninhibited young woman who is markedly different from Ann.
Graham arrives and proves to be a quiet, enigmatic drifter with a
penchant for black clothes and unflinching honesty. Relieved that
he is so unlike her husband, Ann finds herself drawn to him and agrees
to help him hunt for an apartment. As the two get to know each other,
Graham tells Ann that he is impotent and later shocks her by
Cynthia and Ann's relationship is an uneasy one, filled with hostility and envy on both sides, and Ann is appalled--and perhaps secretly jealous--that Cynthia has made a tape for Graham. She is also beginning to suspect that John is having an affair, and she confronts him with her suspicions, which he denies. When she finds Cynthia's earring in their bedroom, however, Ann realizes the truth and immediately drives to Graham's apartment, where she insists on making a videotape.
John learns that Ann has made the tape when she asks him for a divorce. Furious, he arrives at Graham's door, knocks him down, locks him outside on the porch, and then watches Ann's videotape. Ann talks openly on the tape about her sexual feelings and inhibitions then abruptly turns the tables on Graham by seizing the camera and beginning to tape him. Uncomfortable at finding himself the subject rather than the viewer of the tape, Graham nevertheless explains that he was once a compulsive liar, particularly where women were concerned, and his decision to live with rigorous honesty has led him to withdraw from any sort of intimacy. His only means of achieving sexual satisfaction now is watching his videotapes. Ann, however, has broken through that emotional isolation, and, at the tape's conclusion, they make love.
John leaves, and Graham destroys his collection of tapes; his private world has been invaded and is no longer within his control. In the film's closing scenes, Ann and John separate, Cynthia breaks off her affair with John, John's legal career enters a decline, Ann and Cynthia grow closer, and Ann begins a relationship with Graham.
Ann provides the film with its emotional center. She is a woman who, seen from the outside, would appear to have an enviable life, yet it is apparent from the film's first scene that her inner life is far from placid or content. Graham's arrival brings to the surface the emotions that Ann has suppressed, emotions that have manifested themselves in the obsessive anxieties that she relates to her therapist. Her life with John is a tissue of lies, a hollow fabrication in which a carefully decorated home and an upwardly mobile lifestyle serve as substitutes for a sense of genuine love and commitment.
For John, Ann represents the sort of wife that a successful young attorney ought to have; she is cool, beautiful, and circumspect in her behavior. Yet her loss of interest in him sexually troubles him very little; his interest in her is as a wife not a lover. It is Cynthia who attracts him and whose uninhibited sexuality excites him, although her lifestyle would no doubt render her unacceptable to him as a wife. It is also clear from a conversation John has with a friend that Cynthia is not the only woman with whom he has betrayed Ann. A wedding ring, he confides, acts like a magnet where women are concerned. John is unquestionably the film's least sympathetic character; he is a self-satisfied hypocrite whose sharp comeuppance at the film's conclusion is emotionally satisfying, if dramatically somewhat weak.
Cynthia is one of the film's most intriguing characters. An independent, outspoken young woman whose physical hold on John is so strong that he repeatedly cancels appointments with an important client for afternoon visits to her apartment, she is a complex mixture of self-assurance and longstanding resentment toward her sister. It becomes apparent that in their childhood relationship, she found herself relegated to the role of "bad sister" next to the pretty, popular, well-behaved Ann, a role she continues to play with both relish and a good deal of bitterness. Shocking Ann with her language, her attitudes, and her behavior is a double-edged sword that brings her both satisfaction and an aura of toughness that will not permit emotional intimacy.
Graham is the story's wild card, a character whose lifestyle and behavior
offer a threat to the status quo. Ann and Cynthia are changed by their
encounters with him as they confront the truth of their own lives,
while John finds his life changed against his will by the decisions
of the other characters. What Graham adds to the pattern into which
their lives have fallen is honesty, an ingredient missing in the behavior
of all three. A one-time compulsive liar, Graham has resolved to live
with ruthless honesty--much as an alcoholic resolves to live without
drinking, and the effect of his
It is the experience of making the videotapes that has a transforming effect on the two sisters. For Cynthia, the extreme emotional honesty and the level of openness and trust that it requires offer her a glimpse of another side of her own nature that gradually begins to appear in her subsequent behavior. Her anger toward Ann begins to subside, and she makes a few hesitant overtures of friendship, while her relationship with John no longer offers her the same degree of satisfaction. For Ann, the confrontation with the emotional emptiness of her own life allows her to see that Graham, too, is living in a state of alienation and prompts her to reach out to him through his own video camera.
The twist that Soderbergh gives his story is that Graham--the outsider, the intruder--is changed by its events as well. When Ann turns the camera on him, he says helplessly, "this wasn't supposed to happen," but he is forced at last to confront his own self-imposed isolation and to recognize that perhaps honesty and intimacy are not mutually exclusive. Despite his seeming self-sufficiency earlier in the story, it emerges during the taping that he may have instigated the changes in his life as a means of proving his worth to a former girlfriend, a ridiculous plan, as Ann is quick to point out to him. Underneath his carefully constructed existence as a loner, Graham is in reality an extremely vulnerable young man, and his brutal encounter with John, who destroys the privacy of his world by viewing Ann's tape, has a devastating effect on him. At the film's close, he has, in effect, reentered society by establishing a relationship with Ann.
Any film that deals so exclusively with issues of emotion and its
characters' inner lives must necessarily rely heavily on the skills
of its actors for a large measure of its success or failure. SEX,
LIES AND VIDEOTAPE has three exceptional performances in the work
of Andie MacDowell, Laura San Giacomo, and James Spader. (Peter Gallagher
is well cast as John, but the role offers less opportunity for a display
of acting talent because of the character's own shallowness.) MacDowell
makes Ann by turns amusing, edgy, and dreamily bewildered as her years
of self-denial begin to crumble,
Soderbergh has given his film the look and aura of a documentary,
a technical choice in keeping with the theme of Graham's use of videotape
as a substitute for emotional intimacy. The film consists almost entirely
of conversations between its various characters, and its script is
witty, intelligent, and precise in the ways in which it establishes
each character's voice. That SEX, LIES AND VIDEOTAPE is Soderbergh's
first feature makes his accomplishment especially