Monday, 5 April 2004 - 5:33 PM BST
Porny Boy said:
You have your other secret blog, why not write about it there? Or would that not be enough?
My 'secret' blog is only secret in the sense it's about my job, which I swore to keep out of this weblog here. Should anyone want to read it, they have only to mailio me and ask. Correspondingly, it's about nothing but work.
a) If being weary of being nice is related to dealing with your ex, then: am there, doing that, no sign of a merchandise stall - it's a thankless task, but I firmly believe that the energy it would require you to be - ahem - frank and earnest, AND deal with the fallout from that, far exceeds the energy required to grin and bear it. So while it may not seem like it, you're protecting yourself. It's as horribly simple as "there is no easy way to cope with this".
Bingo. Spot on. And thank you. You're right, unleashing this stuff isn't going to help anyone, much less the people I'm most likely to unleash it on, who don't particularly want to hear anything rotten or unfair about their good friend Tybalt.
b) Yes. Yuck. That way blandness lies, but bitching about other people's blogs would make for extremely dull reading. Save it for e-mail.
I didn't mean bitching, I meant in a rather roundabout way that I don't like it if I dislike a blog, and I get pressurised to like because others do. Ack, it's too hard to explain.
Or: you wrote I know these people do want feedback, because they invite comments. Somehow I also know they don't want brutal feedback, or honest-but-unfriendly comments. I disagreed with that at the time, and if that's what you're talking about now, then why not try it on for size? After all, you'd call out a friend for saying or doing something stupid. I wouldn't - don't - apply this to blogs I don't "know", in the same way I don't go up to strangers and tell them their clothes are crap.
Damn you for recalling that. I got into so much damn trouble for writing that on here - caused no end of tantrums from other bloggers. But, yes, I did write it, and I did mean it, but at the time I was referring to 3 particular people, 2 of whom I have braoched the subject with in my own roundabout way, and the third of whom I don't care to communicate with. No my irritation today was merely that I didn't like being told who I should or shouldn't like or link to or what I should or shouldn't say on here. All very teenage, i'm sure.
c) I read that. Laughed a lot, in what was probably a very unpleasant way. HERE BE JOURNALISTS in particular made me howl, and oh, all right, I feel a bit ashamed of myself. 'Someone Important' is stretching what was said: I can see how you got there, but only because you said it. Because, e is right: it's just excitement and nerves.
Yes, now e's explained her take on it, I've gone back and re-read it differently, and can see that it could be read innocently as stupid off the cuff remarks. I like my version, though - after all the internet is all about conspiracy.
And here are the culprits.... you can see how comments like these can become misinterpreted as farther along the dark passage:
** blogvertising has been rather *too* effective, and we could end up being "victims of our own success"
** Nip it in the bud now by stopping all blogvertising (remove our lovely buttons etc) and not "allowing" any further attendees
** what we should think about is if there's anyone obvious missing who should be there? if so, we make srue they hear about it, if not we take off the buttons...
** I feel I might've earned a place at the table. Maybe
** i think it's maybe tough to 'pull up the ladder to the treefort' as it were
** You could always have some sort of "reality show" blog where people could be voted out of the blogmeet
** personally i think it should be just the regulars otherwise know as the 'followers of ray'