Mark Daniel Striker
10/28/63 - 07/31/99
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In October of 1963, Mark's mother was living in Staten Island, New York.
She had Toxemia and was nine months pregnant, but her doctor believed that she
was only six months along because she had only gained five pounds. She was put
into the hospital and two weeks later she went into labor. At 11:10 AM on the
28th of October, Mark Daniel came into this world weighing in at a whopping
4lbs 11 oz and 16 inches long. Mark was the only one of six children with red
hair and green eyes. He was given the nickname of Bones but his mother and his
big sister, Cindy, called him Marky. What follows are his mothers memories...
"Mark was a very sweet baby with few needs. He was soooo tiny that my brother,
Bob, and I took turns every two hours feeding Mark with an eye dropper. Finally,
one day I found an old time nipple, the kind that pulled down over the bottle,
that would fit into his mouth.
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Mark always played by himself... one day when my sister-in-law
was babysitting for me, she couldn’t find him. When I got back, we called
the police and then they finally found the little sucker playing with cars
under the steps. He didn’t even have a clue that anyone was looking for him!
As a child Mark would say that when he grew up he was gonna be either an
actor or a songwriter. He loved football and his favorite team was the Seattle
Seahawks. Cindy and her husband would spent hours during the holidays looking
for gifts for Mark with the Seahawks logo on it. Mark was a really good teenager,
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as were all of my four oldest children. I was very proud of
him, especially in high school cause he would say grace over his food in front
of all the other students, something I know that took a lot of grit. Mark
was a very private person and for the most part kept his girlfriends to himself.
He wasn’t crazy, he did have four brothers! In high school he was awesome
in the play “Arsenic and Old Lace” where he played the part as the old man.
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In 1982, when Mark was 18, he joined the United States Marine Corp. and he
served four years. This forever changed the Mark we knew and loved. He
was a survivor of the truck bombing in Beruit in 1983 that killed 263 of his
fellow Marines, and he had to help dig them out of the rubble. When they ran
out of body bags they had to use their military clothes to wrap the body parts
in. When he left the Marines he wouldn’t even bring his clothes home after
they gave them back to him. (Yes, they did gave him those same clothes back.)
While he was digging out bodies he came to a very close friend and kept trying
to shake the boy awake. Of course the poor kid was already dead. I think they
had to restrain Mark after that. I believe that was the beginning of the end
for my son. The bombing left Mark with insomnia, and when he did sleep he
had terrible nightmares, and he could be heard screaming. This went on for
the rest of Marks life. He spoke little about his time in Beruit; he would
jump if someone tapped him from behind; he went from an easy going, mild mannered
kid to a man that showed anger at little things. He didn’t even stay for the
“Parade” when they came home to the United States. He never married but he
does have a daughter named Tiffany. Tiffany is now 11 years old, lives in
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Mark loved any kind of food , but his favorite was Spanish
Rice and Chicken. He loved
tinkering with electronics and playing with his nephews and
his friends kids. He also really enjoyed Nintendo. He use to drive the family
crazy with the way he would talk or yell at the television. And he was awesome
at Jeopardy. He had the answers out before most people could read the whole
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Mark would call me "Ma" or "Madre" *smile* I can’t recall him ever teasing
me about anything, but I'm sure that he did. When ever Mark came in or left
he always kissed his Ma, which would always melt my heart, especially when he
did this in his teen years where boys are afraid their peers will make fun of
them for doing things like that. He still would do this at the age of 35. I
enjoyed just being with Mark. He was always quiet and so respectful. He was
the most non-judgmental person I ever knew, and he was so family loving. His
family meant everything to him. He never asked for much from anyone. He loved
to be around his sister, brothers, nieces and nephews, which is quite a brood.
At dinner time, he was always the last one to serve himself, always waiting
for everyone else.
On July 31st of 1999, Mark decided to take his journey to Heaven. I believe
that Mark is now with his daddy, Eddie, and with my Mom, Nellie, who was like
a second mom to Mark. People will remember Mark for what he was..... a little
man in stature, but big in heart. He was kind and quiet, non-materialistic,
and if Mark got your ear then you knew he liked you. Most people never knew
how incredibly smart he was. He didn’t even realize it himself.
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One thing Mark taught me was a pain that I never knew
existed. Never in my life have I had to experience this kind of agony. He
also taught me to pay more attention to others that are depressed. I love
my son and miss him so much. I would give my own life in a heartbeat to have
him come back and try life again. To know how much he was capable of, what
a special man he was to everyone he came in contact with.... he is deeply
missed."
There are 40,000 suicides a year in the United States. There are far more suicides than there are homicides. There are also over 750,000 people treated in US emergency rooms for attempted suicide a year. How can we continue to be ashamed, America?
It's time to end the stigma and change things! Talk about suicides with your
loved ones. Please don't wait until you have a loved one that becomes a statistic
to wake up!
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