Christian Leadership Training Institute
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1-1-11-Prayer"Pray for us. We are sure that we have a clear conscience and desire to live honorably in everyway. I particularly urge you to pray so that I may be restored to you soon." (Heb. 13:18-19). Leaders recognize the need for prayer, Christian leaders are especially vulnerable to criticism from others, pride (if they succeed); depression (if they fail), and Satan's constant efforts to destroy their work for God. They desperately need our prayers!
A danger of always closing with prayer is that the individual you visit might come to look on the prayer as a way to say good-bye rather than communication with God. The person might feel disappointed when you mention prayer, because it signals that you will be leaving. Remember that prayer can come appropriately at any time during a visit. Not to Manipulate There is always the danger that prayer might be used as a means of manipulating another into action that you want to see happen. This prayer is merely an attempt to force the person's hand by arousing feelings of guilt. A prayer of this sort will probably have negative results. If the other person expresses a desire to pray for a change of heart on some matter, that's different. Then, the prayer is coming from the expressed needs of the other person, not your own hidden needs. How to Pray Introducing Prayer Initiating prayer is awkward for some people. What do you say when you sense that prayer is appropriate? You might want to avoid a simple declaration like, "Let us pray." You might say something like:
These introductions leave the individual with a choice. Prayer needs to be a willing response if it is to be true prayer. When the Person Says No Most of the time, when you ask someone if he or she would like to pray, your suggestion will be welcome. Of course, the person can also say no. On those occasions, he or she will usually give a reason. One reason could be that the person has already prayed extensively about the matter. If this is the case, remember that prayer should be based on the other person's needs, not yours. Sometimes people say no to prayer because they don't like to pray. Although you have excellent reasons why prayer is beneficial, you can't force another to value prayer in the same way. To force prayer on someone can achieve opposite results from those you intend. People could also say no to prayer because they prefer to pray privately and are reluctant to ptay with someone else. While you need to respect their feelings, you might want to explain gently the benefits and joys of praying together. However, the final decision on whether or not to pray is theirs. Whatever reason people have for saying no to prayer, you need not become defensive, nor think that you are being rejected. Moreover, as your relationship develops there might be other occasions when the person will feel more open to prayer. Be patient. Addressing God In prayer of any kind, you begin by addressing God. But what kind of God are you inviting into the relationship? Remember that God invites you to address him as your loving Father. Remember - and let your prayers show it - that God is a loving God who involves himself in the lives of his children. Jesus Christ, God's Son, became a human being and shared in all of human experience. He truly understands all of what you talk about when you pray to him, and knew it beforehand. Remember it is His will that is important, not His children's will. The prayer is for us to use as a way of understanding our relationship to Him. Honesty Do not avoid the pain and apparent injustice of a situation. Some people think they have to "Clean up" their thoughts when they talk to God. To them feelings like anger, sadness, bitterness, or fear have no place in prayer. Consequently, they end up being dishonest with God. Martin Luther's first rule of prayer is "Don't lie to God." Feel free to share all emotions and experiences with God. God is loving and understanding and wants honesty from us, not prettied-up piety. It is only by sharing painful moments honestly with God that people find themselves able to grow. Choosing Meaningful Words Be sensitive to the needs and expectations of the person you are with. Choose language that the other person understands and with which he or she is comfortable. While the age of the person can affect your choice of words, you need not use language you are unfamiliar with, like slang with a teenager if you are an adult. Rather, choose words that are natural for both of you. You might want to avoid religious expressions such as "thee," and "thou" unless that is more comfortable for you and the other person. It is possible to be excessively critical of language or style. If you find yourself stumbling along and groping for words, keep going. What to Pray About Pray about what you and the person you are training wish to clarify in both of your minds, the relationship of the trainee to his God. This prevents vague prayer and renders it more meaningful for the other person. Both you and the other person will benefit if you are clear about the relationship you will bring to God before you pray. Building a Prayer Building a prayer simply means that you and the person discuss what needs to go in the prayer before you start to pray. As you build a prayer, you discover the needs of the individual by asking open-ended questions, enabling the person to express his or her real concerns. When Someone Asks You to Pray On occasion another person might request a prayer. You might be tempted to immediately fold your hands and begin praying. But remember that prayer should meet the other person's needs - no matter who suggest it. A good response might be something like: "I would be glad to pray with you. Before I do, I'd like you to share with me what you're thinking about and what you would like to clarify before your God. I think we could share them better with God that way." This is not an evasion technique, but a way to provide quality training. Using Prewritten Prayers although most of the praying I have talked about so far is extemporaneous, you could also choose to use a prayer book in your training. Here are some specific suggestions for the use of prayers from books or other resources:
Where to Pray You can pray with a person anywhere, provided you adjust your style of prayer to the surroundings. When a visit is in a private home, the setting is usually conducive to quiet moments of prayer. But prayers can also be appropriate in public places like a hospital. If you are with someone in a waiting room, however, you might want to postpone prayer or move to a place with fewer distractions. Even in a patient's room, there is not always total privacy. If another patient is in an adjoining bed, you might want to adjust your style by praying more softly with the person you are visiting. Or, depending on the other person's religious orientation, you might want to include him or her in the prayer. Be sensitive so as not to bully other people into being included when they do not want to be. Remember also that the person you are visiting can be in such a state of crises, pain, or sickness that he or she really needs your undivided attention. Don't dilute your training to someone who really needs your intensive training at that moment. Prayer is our response to God's gracious invitation to share with Him. It is based on a child's need to communicate and share with his Father his needs and concerns, trust and commitment, and shared love. As you go about being a training Christian, both you and the person for whom you share in prayer will find strength and assurance, knowing what you share with God is left in the hands of God, who is a loving Father. Homework
Closing May our God of intimate love bless us with a constant awareness of his presence. May God teach us to pray, both along and with others. May he deepen our relationship with himself daily as we spend time sharing with him, loving him, and seeking his help and his will through prayer. Amen.
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