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Sexual Abuse

pictureof a abuse National Statistics on Child Abuse

Every year in this country, two million children are brutally beaten or sexually abused.

A report of child abuse is made every ten seconds

More than five children die every day as a result of child abuse.

One out of every 3 girls will be sexually assaulted by the age of 18.
1 out of 7 children are abused. How many do you know?
You can’t afford to ignore it.

In 2009, an estimated 1,770 children died from abuse in the United States.

Excellent Website on Sexual Abuse for boys -

A Personal Note from Me

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Sexual Abuse: Surviving the Pain

"Silence, but a hold on your soul. the demons"


Defining Incest

Incest was traditionally defined as sex between close relatives. But incest is, above all, abuse; abuse by the very person(s) entrusted with the child's care. Incest is "any use of a minor child to meet the sexual or sexual/emotional needs of one or more persons whose authority is derived through ongoing emotional bonding with that child."

Incest is especially common in alcoholic families, where judgment and boundaries are impaired. If the perpetrator always commits the act while under the influence of alcohol or some other substance, (s)he may have no memory of the events. Victims also may or may not remember. The trauma may be so severe that part or all of the abuse is blocked from conscious memory. This may continue for many years until something triggers a "flashback," although the effects of the abuse, emotionally or behaviorally, continue all along. The protective role of such blocking must be explained to patients who may, in fact, experience increasing flashbacks as treatment continues.

Myths & Facts about Sexually Abused Boys

Child sexual abuse has been reported up to 80,000 times a year, but the number of unreported instances is far greater, because the children are afraid to tell anyone what has happened, and the legal procedure for validating an episode is difficult. The problem should be identified, the abuse stopped, and the child should receive professional help. The long-term emotional and psychological damage of sexual abuse can be devastating to the child.

Child sexual abuse can take place within the family, by a parent, step-parent, sibling or other relative; or outside the home, for example, by a friend, neighbor, child care person, teacher, or stranger. When sexual abuse has occurred, a child can develop a variety of distressing feelings, thoughts and behaviors.

Sexually abused children may also develop the following: •unusual interest in or avoidance of all things of a sexual nature •sleep problems or nightmares •depression or withdrawal from friends or family •seductiveness •statements that their bodies are dirty or damaged, or fear that there is something wrong with them in the genital area •refusal to go to school •delinquency/conduct problems •secretiveness •aspects of sexual molestation in drawings, games, fantasies •unusual aggressiveness, or •suicidal behavior

No child is psychologically prepared to cope with repeated sexual stimulation. Even a two or three year old, who cannot know the sexual activity is wrong, will develop problems resulting from the inability to cope with the overstimulation.

The child of five or older who knows and cares for the abuser becomes trapped between affection or loyalty for the person, and the sense that the sexual activities are terribly wrong. If the child tries to break away from the sexual relationship, the abuser may threaten the child with violence or loss of love. When sexual abuse occurs within the family, the child may fear the anger, jealousy or shame of other family members, or be afraid the family will break up if the secret is told.

A child who is the victim of prolonged sexual abuse usually develops low self-esteem, a feeling of worthlessness and an abnormal or distorted view of sex. The child may become withdrawn and mistrustful of adults, and can become suicidal.

I urge everyone to please get help if you've been abused. I lost a very dear friend to suicide because he was raped by his father
(the minister of their church) for two years...when he was 11 and 12 years old. I miss him everyday.