Although having a girlfriend may make me feel amazing in certain ways, being single can be fun and rewarding too! If you can, please spend the next few minutes of yours to read on.

(Trust me, I am not making the below story up because I am unattached or deprived of love, but it's true from me.)

I Am A Single by Choice

I remember my friends having had their first girlfriends by the age of 13 (by the way, I was attending an all-boys' school). By the time we were in Secondary Four, most of them would have gone through a couple of relationships. As for me, I sailed through the whole of my secondary education without getting into a BGR.

I admit that there were times when I felt quite left out when my pals talked about their girlfriends. But I had believed that it's sad if people were to enter into a relationship just because of peer pressure. That was what happened to me. Once, I had even confessed to my friends that I would go with anyone just to "save my reputation". But having a girlfriend for the sake of having one makes no sense at all. You might be short-changing yourself for someone better and more suitable. Who knows, when your "Ms.Right" really comes along, you are going to regret not having waited a little long for her. I mean, you can't very well cast your current relationship aside when that happens, can you? Besides, "Ms.Right" might not want to interfere with your current relationship too.

Been There, Done That, And Know Better

I'll tell you a secret. What sustained me throughout those "girlfriendless" years throughout the past years was the belief that someday my Princess would come for me.

I met Li Ting when I was secondary three (I was 15 years old) during Outward Bound Singapore (OBS in short form). Guess my "Princess" theory didn't work out for me at that time, but it's okay - life is never free of mistakes. But I have to admit I really had great times with her especially when she was my first love. I was very depressed during those days I realised she was no more by my side. But now, at least I am brave enough not to feel dishearted, but to continue believing what I always believed in. Of course, my friends would roll their eyes whenever I put forward my theory of "saving" myself for Ms.Right, and not just going out with anyone who fancy me.

I never borthered to go out with someone I am not attracted to (even though I admit I was quite desperate for a girlfriend at one point of time after losing my first love), 'cos if I don't fancy her now, chances are that I won't ever. The "getting to know the person inside out" theory doesn't work for me. If I can't even picture her being my "other half", what's the point of leading her on and going for a date?

In actual fact, you can't commit and really be true to anyone when you have this ideal image of "Ms.Right". Getting into a relationship with someone just because you want to avoid the negative stigma of being "single and available" doesn't do justice to yourself and the other party.

Love at times have a negative side too. At least I know it has a negative side because for my case, I had much problems with friends around me or even my once good friend. Even though I should not blame anyone over my lost of my first love, I have lost what was supposed to be a good friend of mine. So do not always think that love is everything one should have.

How to Handle The Jibes

Be secure enough to know that you are not missing out on life. Just because you are single in no way means that you are unattractive. Having a girlfriend might make you feel great and attractive initially, but the "high" you get will wear off. Eventually, how you feel about yourself can only come from within you. It has little to do with what you possess (for example, a trophy girlfriend), whom you know or what you do. After all, I have been living so many years without getting into a BGR.

Princess for Me

Though having a girlfriend may make you feel amazing in certain ways, there's nothing quite perfect as feeling amazing all by yourself. While you have more time and freedom to pursue your personal goals, there is always the likelihood of meeting your princess one day.

That's what sustains me for now. And when mine comes along, she'll be blown away by confident and secure man standing before her. Until then, no girls is going to interfere with my good times.

Trust me, nobody knows what's best for you except yourself. Believe in yourself even as nobody else does. Like what the Jewish Talmud said, "If I am not for myself, who will be?"

To end off, I just want to say, "The other half of you is somewhere walking down the streets. It is the matter of time when you and her will be together. No point rushing to find one. Just have patience, the chance will be there for you when the time is ripe."