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          A. People learn how to behave from each other

           Parents teach their children

           Children teach their parents

           Husbands teach their wives

           Wives teach their husbands

           ALL BEHAVIOR IS TAUGHT


          B. You can be a teacher also:

           You can change behaviors in others that need 
               changing

           You can help others change your behavior

           You can change your child's behavior

          Have you ever wondered why we train people for almost
          every important job in society except the most important
          one of all?

          Mothers and fathers have a difficult job. However, few
          are trained for it with the teaching skills they need.

          In this course, we hope to provide you with some important
          teaching and management skills. Give it a try. Remember, 
          please give some feedback either thru the guestbook or by
          email(highplains140@usa.net). Please also ask questions. 
          They will be answered or you will be referred to another
          source where it can be answered. 


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WHO OWNS THE PROBLEM?





          In the parent-child relationship, three situations occur:


               1. The child has a problem because he/she is thwarted
                  in satisfying a need. It is not a problem for the
                  parent because the CHILD'S behavior in no tangible
                  way interferes with the parent's satisfying his/her
                  own needs. Therefore, THE CHILD OWNS THE PROBLEM.

               2. The child is satisfying his/her own needs (he/she 
                  is not thwarted) and his/her behavior is not 
                  interfering with the parent's own needs. Therefore,
                  THERE IS NO PROBLEM IN THE RELATIONSHIP.

               3. The child is satisfying his/her own needs (he/she 
                  is not thwarted). But his/her behavior is a problem
                  to the parent because it is interfering in some 
                  tangible way with the parent's satisfying a need of 
                  his/her own. NOW THE PARENT OWNS THE PROBLEM.


          
          ACTIVE LISTENING by the parent is most appropriate and 
          helpful when the child owns the problem. However, it is 
          often very inappropriate when the parent owns the problem. 
          It helps the child find solutions to his/her own problems, 
          but seldom helps the parent find solutions when the child's 
          behavior is causing the parent a problem.
          1997




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