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This page is gonna be about my sister who was murdered in oct of 1996 by her husband.She was 31 years old and had 2 boys.He stabbed her in the liver and finally her heart give out from trying to pump to much blood.I will be adding more on here i just have to find what i want on here.Sorry that the newspaper clippins are so big but i wanted to be able to read it.When she was stabbed and died it really devastated our family.Not only was she my sister I also raised her from the time she about 8 years old.She had left her husband due to him abusing her. This is the hardest thing i have ever gone thur and i know my brother Roger took it hard to.Thank you Roger for the pic's that is on here. Her husband got life after he serves 35 years.His release date is august of 2027 the last i heard.I hope he never walks the street again a free man.During his trail,he tryed to act like he was crazy and kept prolonging it,it took 2 years to get a conviction.He tryed to commit suicide several times,to bad he didn't suceed in doing it.When i find my other page that i have i will put it on here also.I am searching for sites about Domestic Violence and will be putting more stuff on here. After years of abuse she finally left him and he stalked her and finally murdered her.What was so bad he weigh 300 pounds and Wendy didn't weigh a 100 pounds soaking wet.If there is anyone out there being abused GET HELP,If he hits you once he will keep doing it, Trust me i know i was also abused but i lived to tell about it. If you need to talk to someone there is always someone out there to talk to,Just tell some one what is going on.Think about your kids your family.I know every day i wish i had Wendy back I miss her so much.But i know she is in a better place now,it's just she should be here seeing her baby grow up and finish school,get married.What makes this so bad is that she had finally left him she had met someone that made her happy and treated her real good,and James couldn't stand it. I still have nightmares of this and i blame myself i should hsve been there that day and she wouldn't have went to meet him but he tricked her,he told her that her younger son was in the hospital and she believed him instead of calling the hospital she just went a meet him. I just wish i could have done more to help her,Wendy i still miss you so much and love you so much.
- The batterer who states "Death before divorce!" or "You belong to me and will never belong to another!" or the old standby; "If I can't have you nobody will!" May be stating his fundamental belief that you have no right to life separate from him. A batterer who believes he is absolutely entitled to a woman's services, obedience and loyalty, no matter what, may be life-endangering. Domestic Violence Statistics related to hospitalization or murder: In 1996, among all female murder victims in the U.S., 30% were slain by their husbands or boyfriends. In 1990, more than 800 women were killed by their husbands; 400 more were killed by their boyfriends. One-third of all female homicide victims are killed by husbands, ex-husbands, boyfriends or ex-boyfriends. More than twice as many women are killed by their husbands or boyfriend as are murdered by strangers. On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day. In 1999, 1,642 murders were attributed to intimates; 74 percent of the murder victims (1,218 total) were women. Females accounted for 39% of the hospital emergency department visits for violence-related injuries in 1994 but 84% of the persons treated for injuries inflicted by intimates. Family violence costs the nation from $5 to $10 billion annually in medical expenses, police and court costs, shelters and foster care, sick leave, absenteeism, and non-productivity

This is a pic i found of a battered woman on the web.

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You did not Merely Die,but You Were Murdered

You did not merely die, but you were murdered, And so my anger magnifies my grief.

Love and hate are clean and filthy water Spilling through my veins like hell unleashed.

I would but mourn, but vengeance clouds my sorrow;

I would but kill, but love finds there no peace; I would but weep, but weeping is a river

That flows with vast intention to the sea.

I must, I must confess that I have lost you,

And find a place to plant my plucked-out love,

And look to justice, not revenge, to free you To dance again with joy where loved ones live.


Love shouldn’t hurt as the adage goes Yet that’s not always true as so many know Too often the person we thought we knew Is just the opposite, was no clues?

Be it a bad temper or spot of jealously It’s easy being fooled, by another’s personality? Much can be hidden deep within Can a snarl be present beneath a grin?

Must a smile always mean what we think? Why do we lower our defenses because of a wink? Why does our heart react as it does Does physical attraction have to involve love?

We let our emotions take complete control Foolishly walking blindly into an unknown role That role may turn a once peaceful home Into a nightmare, a domestic violence zone

We think we know how to choose our mate A 10 is our goal or maybe slump to an 8 The numbers game is a poor method to follow The reason being, a wrong choice is difficult to swallow!

©Copyright 1999 by Marvin L. Caldwell



Dedicated to all battered women. by Paulette Kelly

• • •

I got flowers today!

It wasn't my birthday or any other special day; We had our first argument last night; And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt;

I know that he is sorry and didn't mean to say the things he said; Because he sent me flowers today.

• • •

I got flowers today! It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day;

Last night he threw me into a wall and then started choking me; It seemed like a nightmare, but you wake up from nightmares to find they aren't real.

• • •

I got flowers today! And it wasn't Valentine's Day or any other special day;

Last night he beat me and threatened to kill me;

Make-up and long-sleeves didn't hide the cuts and bruises this time;

I couldn't go to work today because I didn't want anyone to know-but I know he's sorry;

Because he sent me flowers today.

• • •

I got flowers today! And it wasn't Mother's Day or any other special day;

Last night he beat me again, and it was much worse than all of the other times;

If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of the kids? What about money?

I'm afraid of him, but I'm too scared and dependent to leave him! But he must be sorry;

Because he sent me flowers today.

• • •

I got flowers today...Today was a very special day---it was the day of my funeral;

Last night he finally killed me---I was beaten to death;

If only I would have gathered the courage and strength to leave him;

The women's shelter could have helped me, but I didn't ask for their help;

So I got flowers today...for the last time.

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