Well, I really havent gotten any response in quite a while about this
page, so I think it is safe to assume that no one is visiting anymore.
Which is really alright, since it allows me even more journalistic
freedom. Of course, my typical life usually has very little going on.
I still work at Walmart everyday, I still have no love life going into
Valentines Day. Which brings us to the point of today's article,
Romance, is it real?
Sure, some people are old school and some are new school, but I think most
would tend to agree that there is something unique, something special
about love. Even the most experienced of persons can go through the
usual symptoms, dry mouth, loss of thought, thick lump in the stomach,
the inability to say the words that are so clear in your head.
But, what does all if this really mean? Do people really fall in love
anymore or has the fastpaced lifestyle of today made it impossible?
Many people enjoy love only when it is convenient.
People get married because it saves money, they go on dates because it
shows they are socially responsible, they love because it satisfies
the human body. But, they dont view love as necessary, they can get by
without it, for better or for worse. In fact, many people avoid love
for the sheer complication that it imposes on life. After all, who
really wants to play the fool? Do we really want to make ourselves
look stupid to someone that we care about? Also, many people have said
that love only causes people to get hurt. Why would anyone deliberately
do anything that they know will cause them pain in the future?
The answer is in our hearts, say romantics, but science says otherwise.
Although you may get a feeling deep in your chest, this is actually
caused by hormones which of course are directly related to the brain.
Also, science has proven that all thought and thus all emotion result
from electro impulses in the brain. Thus, science believes that love
cannot exist for any purposes other than to recreate ones species.
Obviously, that shouldn't satisfy anyone, since even the most hardened
of criminals have experienced love. Even sex criminals have expressed
remorse, exemplifying that they only wanted someone to love them. No,
instead we have to look for a better answer. What better example could
there be than today's teens. Although most would express an outside
desire to just get action, most really do have a serious side. Most
teens will express at one point or another that they have felt insecure about
themselves. Most of us think we are different, when we are actually quite
the same. A good example is the seemingly lack of committment that most males
tend to rely on. Although girls find this as a turn off, that is exactly
what they are looking for. If they really wanted a serious relationship, they
would stay away from the guys that have had a hundred girls, instead leaning
toward the nerd population. Of course, this doesn't even consider the point
of attraction, which would take many many hours to attempt to explain, time
that I dont have.
Instead, I only wish to point out the fact that romance is hard. Sure,
we are all having internal struggles about tomorrow, about whether that
certain person will acknowledge our presence or perhaps even confess their
undying love. That is the problem. Every one of us wants someone else to
go out of their way for us, but we dont want to do anything about it.
Instead, everyone is constantly looking up the food chain. At the top is
some guys that no one knows from another town that are dating all the
cheerleaders and other "beautiful" people from the school. Then, the
guys in that grade are looking up at them, wanting to be known by one of
the popular girls. Of course, a girl from a younger grade is looking up at
the bigger older guys in the school. Finally, a nerdy underclassman has a
crush on one of the girls that is just starting to get noticed by everyone
as she attempts to climb the food chain.
It is all rubbish. Everyone is trying to get somewhere, and everyone gets
hurt. Instead, I would like to propose that tomorrow, we all take a little
more time to actually see what is going on. Of course, we dont need to
necessarily drop down the food chain. Why not just say hi, treat them
like a human being, possibly accept the fact that those nerds will someday
be the person you wish you were with. Sure we all get hurt, but most of us
are too busy worrying about our own hurt to realize that we are hurting
others around us even more. Maybe that is too much to ask, but it is worth
thinking about. Even if it just means humbling ourselves enough to
realize that none of us are as good, or as bad as we think.