Self-control
What is self-control?
Control of one's emotions, desires, or actions by one's own will, will power, abstemiousness, aplomb, balance, constraint, dignity, discipline, discretion, poise, repression, reserve, restraint, reticence, self-constraint, self-discipline, self-government, self-mastery, sobriety, stability, stoicism
What is will power?
The strength of will to carry out one's decisions, wishes, or plans, determination, discipline, drive, firmness, fixity, force, grit, resolution, resolve, self-control, self-discipline, self-government, self-restraint, single-mindedness, strength, willWhat is determination?
The act of making or arriving at a decision, the decision reached, firmness of purpose; resolve, a fixed intention or resolution, perseverance, assurance, backbone, boldness, bravery, certainty, certitude, constancy, conviction, courage, dauntlessness, decision, dedication, doggedness, dogmatism, drive, energy, fearlessness, firmness, fortitude, grit, guts, hardihood, heart, independence, indomitability, intrepidity, nerve, obstinacy, persistence, pluck, purpose, purposefulness, resoluteness, resolution, resolve, self-confidence, single-mindedness, spunk, steadfastness, stubbornness, tenacity, valor, willpower
What does it mean to persevere?
To continue despite difficulties, endure, carry on, go on, hang on, keep on, persist
SO therefore we must determine that we are going to activate self-control, and persevere through the difficulties.
One of the most important areas to control is anger.
Anger can cause us to be hurtful to others, and therefore to ourselves.
One of the most important things to learn to control is anger. One way to control anger is to write a letter. Put in it all the feelings you have about the situation and all the things you want to say about it. Afterwards, crumple the letter and throw it in the waste-can.
Another thing you can do is to make the buttons nonfunctional. This can be difficult. You must place yourself in situations where those buttons will be pushed. Control your reactions (by writing the letter as above, by deep-breathing, by whatever works). After a while, those buttons will no longer work.
Another method is to put yourself in another’s place and try to see how you would feel if the situation was reversed. Feel what they feel (empathy).
Here are five simple rules to be more empathetic.
1. Pay attention to the feelings that others express. Watch for both verbal and nonverbal clues. Try to understand the message behind the words and actions.
2. Place the feelings of other's ahead of your own. Put aside your own needs and ideas long enough to listen to another's point of view.
3. Communicate your understanding. Respond or give answers to the messages you receive to show you understand them.
4. Do not interrupt. Let speakers finish what they are saying before you talk.
5. Ask for more information. If you still don't understand, ask more questions until you fully understand.
"Self-reverence, self-knowledge, self-control. These three alone lead to sovereign power." - Lord Alfred Tennyson
Taking charge of self-control is the only thing that will empower you. Totally control what enters and remains in your mind. Those you love and accept are permitted to influence you positively. Negativity in any form has no place here.
http://www.lightchamber.org/Daily/positive.htm
Vow today to attain self-control in the area of anger.
Creator, give me the strength and courage I need to persevere and gain self-control of my anger.
