The community recognizes the phrase "Safe Sane Consensual" as the best brief summary of principles guiding O/our sexual expression:

      A. "Safe" is being knowledgeable about the techniques and safety concerns involved in what Y/you are doing. Each P/participant MUST be informed about the possible risks, both mental and physical.
      B. "Sane" is knowing the difference between fantasy and reality. Knowledgeable consent canNOT be given when Y/you are under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
      C. "Consensual" is respecting the limits imposed by each P/participant. One of the most easily recognized ways to maintain limits is through a "safeword" - which ensures the bottom/submissive can end the activity at any time with a single word or gesture.

  These guidelines only pertain to interaction, including sexual, between consenting A/adults. Children (anyone under 18) cannot give knowledgeable consent. Sexual acts between adults and children are illegal and cannot and will not be condoned by the community.

   Threats are not safe, sane or consensual. Threats can include actions or warnings that Y/your property will be destroyed, or Y/your children or property will be hurt, or Y/your partner threatens to kill Y/you or commit suicide if Y/you leave, or Y/you are blackmailed because of Y/your involvement in diverse sexual practices.

   Isolation and/or being prevented from retaining employment or obtaining higher education is not safe, sane or consensual. Emotions must be respected, including feelings of jealousy or dissatisfaction, and responsibility for what happens must be accepted and shared by each P/participant.