Quotes
"I love a natural look in pictures. I like people with a feeling one way or another - it shows an inner life. I like to see that there's something going on inside them."
"My problem is that I drive myself... I'm trying to become an artist, and to be true, and sometimes I feel I'm on the verge of craziness, I'm just trying to get the truest part of myself out, and it's very hard. There are times when I think, 'All I have to be is true'. But sometimes it doesn't come out so easily. I always have this secret feeling that I'm really a fake or something, a phony."
"They were terribly strict. They didn't mean any harm...it was their religion. They brought me up harshly." - on living with the Bolenders when she was a little girl
"I was surprised to be so crazy about Joe. I expected a flashy New York sports type, and instead I met this reserved guy who didn't make a pass at me right away! He treated me like something special. Joe is a very decent man, and he makes other people feel decent too." - on meeting Joe DiMaggio for the first time
"Joe hates crowds and glamour." - explaining why Joe DiMaggio didn't come on one of her USO tours
"My marriage didn't make me sad, but it didn't make me happy either. My husband and I hardly spoke to each other. This wasn't because we were angry. We had nothing to say. I was dying of boredom." - on why she divorced James Dougherty
"I didn't want to give up my career, and that's what Joe wanted me to do most of all." - on why her marriage to Joe DiMaggio couldn't work
"I want to be a big star more than anything. It's something precious."
"I was surprized to be so crazy about Joe. I expected a flashy New York sports type, and instead I met this reserved guy who didn't make a pass at me right away! He treated me like something special. Joe is a very decent man, and he makes other people feel decent too." - on meeting Joe DiMaggio for the first time
"Jean Harlow was my idol." - on her favorite actress, the first platinum blonde
"The world around me then was kind of grim. I had to learn to pretend in order to - I don't know - block the grimness. The whole world seemed sort of closed to me... [I felt] on the outside of everything, and all I could do was to dream up any kind of pretend game." - on drifting in and out of orphanages when she was little
"Grace McKee arranged the marriage for me, I never had a choice. There's not much to say about it. They couldn't support me, and they had to work out something. And so I got married." - on her early marriage to James Dougherty
"I'm not interested in money, I just want to be wonderful."
"A career is wonderful, but you can't curl up with it on a cold night."
"Sometimes I think it would be easier to avoid old age, to die, young, but then you'd never complete your life, would you? You'd never wholly know yourself..."
"A dollar for your thoughts..."
"I've been on a calendar, but never on time."
"No one ever told me I was pretty when I was a little girl. All little girls should be told they're pretty, even if they aren't."
"In Hollywood a girl's virtue is much less important than her hairdo. You're judged by how you look, not by what you are. Hollywood's a place where they'll pay you a thousand dollars for kiss, and fifty cents for your soul. I know, because I turned down the first offer often enough and held out for the fifty."
"Fame will go by and, so long, I've had you, Fame. If it goes by, I've always known it was fickle."
"I knew I belonged to the public and to the world, not because I was talented or even beautiful, but because I never had belonged to anything or anyone else."
"People had a habit of looking at me as if I were some kind of mirror instead of a person. They didn't see me, they saw their own lewd thoughts, then they white-masked themselves by calling me the lewd one."
"A sex-symbol becomes a thing, I just hate being a thing. But if I'm going to be a symbol of something I'd rather have it sex than some other things we've got symbols of."
"The truth is I've never fooled anyone. I've let people fool themselves. They didn't bother to find out who and what I was. Instead they would invent a character for me. I wouldn't argue with them. They were obviously loving somebody I wasn't. When they found this out, they would blame me for disillusioning them---and fooling them."
"To put it bluntly, I seem to have a whole superstructure with no foundation. But I'm working on the foundation."
"If I had observed all the rules, I'd never have gotten anywhere."
"I want to grow old without face-lifts... I want to have the courage to be loyal to the face that I have made."
"It's often just enough to be with someone. I don't need to touch them. Not even talk. A feeling passes between you both. You're not alone."
"I'm a failure as a woman. My men expect so much of me, because of the image they've made of me and that I've made of myself, as a sex symbol. Men expect so much, and I can't live up to it."
"It stirs up envy, fame does. People you run into feel that, well, who does she think she is, Marilyn Monroe? They feel fame gives them some kind of privilege to walk up to you and say anything to you, you know, of any kind of nature - and it won't hurt your feelings."
"Fame is fickle, and I know it. It has it's compensations but it also has it's drawbacks, and I've experienced them both."
"My illusions didn't have anything to do with being a fine actress. I knew how third rate I was. I could actually feel my lack of talent, as if it were cheap clothes I was wearing inside. But my God, how I wanted to learn, to change, to improve!"
"If I play a stupid girl, and ask a stupid question, I've got to follow it through. What am I supposed to do, look intelligent?"
"An actor is supposed to be a sensitive intrument. Isaac Stern takes good care of his violin. What if everyone jumped on his violin?"
"There was my name up in lights. I said 'God, somebody's made a mistake!' But there it was in lights. And I sat there and said, 'Remember, you're not a star.' Yet there it was up in lights."
"Some people have been unkind. If I say I want to grow as an actress, they look at my figure. If I say I want to develop, to learn my craft, they laugh. Somehow they don't expect me to be serious about my work."
"I was never used to being happy, so that wasn't something I ever took for granted. I did sort of think, you know, marriage did that. You see, I was brought up differently from the average American child because the average child is brought up expecting to be happy - that's it, successful, happy, and on time."
"You know, when you grow up you can get kind of sour, I mean, that's the way it can go."
"Wouldn't it be nice to be like men and get notches in your belt and sleep with most attractive men and not get emotionally involved?"
"I used to think as I looked at the Hollywood night, 'There must be thousands of girls sitting alone like me, dreaming of becoming a movie star. But I'm not going to worry about them. I'm dreaming the hardest.'"
"I used to say to myself, 'What the devil have you got to be proud about, Marilyn Monroe?' And I'd answer, 'Everything, everything.'"
On stardom: "It scares me. All those people I don't know, sometimes they're so emotional. I mean, if they love you that much without knowing you, they can also hate you the same way."
"Goethe said, 'Talent is developed in privacy, ' you know?And it's really true. There is a need for aloneness which I don't think most people realize for an actor. It's almost having certain kinds of secrets for yourself that you'll let the whole world in on only for a moment, when you're acting."
"Please don't make me a joke. End the interview with what I believe... I want to be an artist, an actress with integrity."
"I've never dropped anyone I believed in."
On John F. Kennedy: "It would be so nice to have a president who looks so young and good-looking."
"I restore myself when I'm alone. A career is born in public -- talent in private."
"Talent is developed in privacy... but everybody is always tugging at you. They'd all like sort of a chunk at you. They'd kind of like to take pieces out of you."
"I want to be an artist... not an erotic freak. I don't want to be sold to the public as a celluloid aphrodisiacal."
"Hollywood is a place where they'll pay a million dollars for a kiss... and fifty cents for your soul."
