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Spiritual Strength Of Women

Introduction **Fighting Spirit **Bibi Dalair Kaur - Martyr - Dec 4, 1705 **Bibi Prem Kaur - Heroic Nurse **Bibi Saran Kaur **Bibi Sharan Kaur **Sri Bibi Harbans Kaur **Bibi Joginder Kaur **Bibi Balwant Kaur **Bibi Jagjeet Kaur Khalsa **Khalsa Women and meer mannu's Jail


BIBI SHARAN KAUR

It is befitting now to describe the wonderful event of Gurmat Anand Karaj of the elder daughter, Bibi Sharan Kaur. This is an illustration of deep faith in Gurmat values in full measure, that is historic and shall be remembered for long. The marriage of my daughter Bibi Daler Kaur was fixed to be held at Narangwal at my place. Bhai Joginder Singh Ji had come to join us along with other Gurmukh invitees on the occasion.

His daughter, Bibi Sharan Kaur had accompanied him. The Akhand Path prior to the Anand Karaj ceremony was in progress and many were listening to the blissful recitation by Master Joginder Singh Ji from village Badundi. It was like heavenly pouring of words-Divine that was indeed very soulful. Master Ji’s face shone in spiritual splendour and his beard just about appearing in early youth. Bhai Joginder Singh Ji was deeply moved by this recitation. In whisperings tones he started telling me that he desired a match like this Akhand Pathhi for his daughter, Sharan Kaur. I happened to comment that there could not be another just like him. Hearing this from me, Bhai Joginder Singh said very determinedly, “Well, then get my daughter married to him here itself, following Anand Karaj of Bibi Daler Kaur.” He never bothered to check out the family background of the proposed bridegroom or his financial status, let alone his caste, etc.

The decision was spontaneous. I also gave my concurrence subject to approval by Bibi Sharan Kaur after seeing Master Ji. Bhai Joginder Singh readily agreed with my view. He requested me to get the message across to Bibi Sharan Kaur by sending word through my wife, Srimati Kartar Kaur Ji. This was done and approval of Bibi Sharan Kaur was sought. As a progeny of devout couple, Bhai Joginder Singh and Bibi Harbans Kaur, Bibi Sharan Kaur gave this befitting reply, “Tay Ji (auntie), where is the need for my concurrence? Who can improve upon the selection for my match made by Sri Bhai Sahib Taya Ji and my father? Whatever they decide is in my best interests. I shall never have any objection to their decision.” In a coincidence Divine, just then Master Joginder Singh Ji ‘Badundi wale’ descended the stairs after being relieved from Akhand Path duty and passed close to my wife and Bibi Sharan Kaur. My wife pointed towards him and told Bibi Sharan Kaur, “He is the proposed groom. He has crippled feet by birth and that is why your Taya Ji and father wanted you to see him in person. Now you make your decision with all your wisdom to avoid repentance later.”

In this age of Kalyug Sharan Kaur’s reply was most astounding. Charged with emotion, reflecting her strong Faith, “Tayi Ji! Is this match more unbecoming than the cripple match selected for Bibi of ‘Dukhbhanjani’ story. You know how rewarding had been Faith in her case. This is all to well known to be described. I fully approve of this match without any reservation.” Srimati Kartar Kaur was most astonished with the reply and in turn we were thrilled. We both felt like worshipping the feet of Bibi Sharan Kaur. Thus finally this couple was married soon after the ceremony of marriage of Bibi Daler Kaur at the same place. Master Joginder Singh Ji wedded Bibi Sharan Kaur, daughter of Sri Bhai Joginder Singh Ji without the rigmorale of a marriage party or dowry. There were no invitations to relatives and friends.

Bhai Joginder Singh had not come prepared for this Anand Karaj, but had only come as an invitee to my daughter’s marriage and his daughter happened to accompany him. Such is the story of unparalleled Faith of Bibi Sharan Kaur, that shall be remembered forever. Sri Bhai Joginder Singh Ji too demonstrated living in true spirits of Gurmat values. This is most exemplary, without a precedent and unlikely to be repeated commonly. It was too spontaneous. Whole of Narangwal was bewildered with this queer match, knowing that Bhai Joginder Singh Ji belonged to neighbouring village, Raipur. These four, five villages are considered to be aristocratic and the people are very proud of this, in absence of Faith of Gurmat. Lineage of Grewals is considered to be very high. These villages never offer their daughters in marriages to people of lowly considered villages like ‘Badundi’ though the brides from these villages are accepted in large numbers. Bhai Joginder Singh Ji trampled this wrong belief under his feet and cared only for true Gurmat values.

Later on there was public talk among the village-gossipies saying “Joginder Singh, supposed to be a high official of Patiala State, has given his well-accomplished and decent daughter in marriage to a cripple from village ‘Badundi’.” This talk went on for quite sometime as village-gossip, but nobody dared to bring it up before me. I too never cared about this meaningless criticism based on self-conceit. Bhai Joginder Singh Ji was very much high in his thinking to care for this. In the world of Gursikhs the event was highly acclaimed. After these two marriages all the gathered sangat of devout Gurmukhs proceeded for the next marriage ceremony of my son, Balbir Singh Ji. Public reaction against Bhai Joginder Singh Ji died down its natural death with time. Anand Karaj of Bhai Balbir Singh Ji, conforming to similar Gurmat was equally applauded. Fear of public criticism was shoved away once again in this case. Sri Bhai Joginder Singh Ji having enjoyed blissfully three Anand Karaj ceremonies returned to Patiala along-with Bibi Sharan Kaur Ji. Master Joginder Singh Ji went over to Patiala and returned with his bride, Bibi Sharan Kaur to his village ‘Badundi’. They have lived happily together thereafter in rare martial bliss. Bhai Joginder Singh Ji is highly satisfied with the relationship.

(Extract from Bhai Sahib Bhai Randhir Singh Ji’s book “Rangle Sajjan” translated by Bhai Jaspinder Singh Ji)



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