Some would presume that engaging in husband-with-his-wife alone-together-in-private consentual and voluntary handcuffing and shackling of the wife (or concubine) with ropes, leather, padded-contact chains....in all sorts of bizarre yoga-like positions of floor or chair or midair suspension whether sideways, spread-eagle, upside-down, etc. without or without strapped-red-ball-in-mouth gag....would not be as fun as coerced and forced involuntary rape-like assault against victims frightened and angry, then mercilessly tortured, even snuffed.
To hogtie - and especially then abuse - a woman against her will is not the characteristic of a Christian husband seeking his wife's best interests, especially if gagging her with a strapped-red-ball inserted into her mouth when she has a stuffed-up nose due to nasal infection would cause her to suffocate to death.
Several Bible verses come to mind pertaining to this:
GENESIS 24:39-41 = ".....perhaps the woman will not follow me." And [Abraham] said to him, "The LORD....will send His angel with you, and prosper your way, and you shall take a wife for my son........if they do not give you one, you shall be free from my oath."
GENESIS 24:50-51 = Then Laban and Bethuel answered and said, 'The thing proceeds from the LORD. We cannot speak to you bad or good. Hey, Rebekah is here, take her and go, and let her be your master's son's wife, as the LORD has spoken."
GENESIS 24:58 = And they called Rebekah, and said to her, 'Will you go with this man?' And she said, "I will go.'
In contrast to that, we read of Dinah (sister to Jacob's 12 sons) being forcibly raped by Shechem (whom the sons of Jacob soon thus executed) in Genesis 34:1-31, punishments for men raping women in Genesis 22:23-29, rape-avoidance warnings against being alone non-protected and instead living at home in Ruth 2:22-23, long-sleeved/long-robed Tamar being raped by her brother Amnon (whom brother Absalom executed) in II Samuel 13:1-29
In the New Testament, God through Paul speaks "by way of concession, not of command" in I Corinthians 7:6 and when Paul asks and not orders Philemon to do such and such in Philemon 1:8-9.
Indeed, Paul succinctly addresses the issue of sexual harassment and abuse in I Thessalonians 4:3-8 with the words:
One wonders also during particularly summertime days....when immodest anonymous women freely roam around in public, terroristically and lasciviously imposing the non-solicited sexually-harassing sight of their LOOSE-long-haired mopheadedness (not in a back-of-head ponytail or up in a chignon, thus violating the plain and obvious implications of RSV's and ESV's Numbers 5:18 and Song 7:5 in context, plus KJV's I Corinthians 11:14-16 in context), nude-armed sleeveslessness - violating the godly tradition in RSV's and ESV's II Samuel 13:18, naked-legs slackslessness (exposed by shorts or "swim"-wear, thus disregarding Isaiah 47:1-4), and sockslessness causing bare-naked toes to be visible under sandals, ignoring Jeremiah 2:25 in context....if women should be punished by being captured and detained into secluded bondage scenarios, being they are obviously not being arrested, fined, and jailed by police for partial indecent exposure. That type of retribulation can be nearly impossible under most circumstances, and neither kidnapping nor false imprisonment is a legitimate retaliation according to both Biblical and civil law [nor is scraping the sides of John-Kerry bumper-sticker cars with carkeys, being that even no-holds-barred fight-to-the-death Asian kung fu experts politely and respectfully bow in front of each other before one brutally and mortally executes the other].
Moreoever, in these times of arrogant and disobedient feminist-sexist insubordination of the despicable type Vashti exhibited in Esther 1:12, men greatly appreciate a woman who submits to her own husband in everything as Ephesians 5:22-24 reminds us, and humbles herself that her husband might exalt her (in more ways than one)....and that might include some temporary and non-abusive bondage sexplay involving intricate and imaginative stretched-rope-combinations binding plus most-unusual and creative mid-air or other suspensions and positioning - having wrists and ankles bound with softened handcuffs, ropes, leather, whatever else is soft or padded and does not cause unnatural bruises, bleeding, or pain.....with the memorable images saved of course by privately-photographed-and-viewed better-than-Polaroid-film digital-cam photos and movies.
How husbands can "love and cherish and nourish their wives as their own bodies" (as it commands in Ephesians 5:25-33) is - when in the process of binding her - to make sure she urinates when she has to in a toilet, or else the room will begin to reek with obnoxious stench, and he will have to erotically wash not only her feet (John 13:14) but all her other body parts (Ephesians 5:26-27) to present her without spot, wrinkle, or blemish (including beauty-defacing tattoos per Leviticus 19:28).
Also, it is a good idea for her to be provided with some means to extricate herself from her roped or handcuffed bondage, particularly if the type of bondage significantly immobilizes her into rather complete helplessness and crucial dependence upon her husband to free her....in case that husband becomes diverted by something and delayed, or leaves her presence for some cause for any extended period of time.
In summary, I might add that I could direct you to websites with true-color sharp-resolution but lamentably-copyright-or-website-referral-marked photos of attractive young women cruelly and painfully twisted in discomfortable positions and tortured with all sorts of gizmos inserted inside and attached to various sensitive and tender parts of their bodies.....but the total nudity would cause most readers to react by self-sodomizing themselves in masturbation, and in the case of men, that would cause an embarrassingly-inconvenient shower-requiring gooey mess within their underpants by the unusually-strong nakedness-based erotic arousal.
