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Advice of violence-prevention professionals compared to advice of James Dobson 
Compiled by Eric Perlin 

A critical look at the evangelical right's leading proponent of violent authoritarianism in the family, Dr.James Dobson, through quotes from his best-selling publications. In the following material, Dobson's admonitions (shown here in green when viewed with Netscape) are juxtaposed for easy comparison to the advice of experts in the fields of domestic violence and child-sexual-abuse prevention. 
 

          Psychologists Ronald Slaby and Wendy Roedell: "(O)ne of the most
          reliable predictors of children's level of aggression is the heavy use by
          parents of harsh, punitive discipline and physical punishment... Parental
          punitiveness has been found to be positively correlated with children's
          aggression in over 25 studies...(P)arental punishment is one important
          aspect of a general pattern of intercorrelated parental behaviors that
          influence the child's aggression." 1 

          James Dobson: "Contrary to what it might seem, (a child) is more likely
          to be a violent person if his parent fails to (spank him), because he learns
          too late about the painful consequences of acting selfishly, rebelliously, and
          aggressively."2 
 

          Protect Your Child by Laura Hutton: "Every child should be taught that
          he has personal rights that should be respected by all adults...'I have the
          right to say no if someone touches or wants to touch the private parts of
          my body.' " 3 

          James Dobson: "A spanking is to be reserved for use in response to
          willful defiance, whenever it occurs. Period!" 4 
 

          Victims Information Bureau of Suffolk County: "The pain a woman
          feels cannot be measured by how many bruises she has on her body...
          Most women report that even if the physical abuse is not severe, the
          emotional trauma from being abused by someone they love has
          long-lasting 
          effects." 5 

          James Dobson: "When a youngster tries this kind of stiff-necked
          rebellion, you had better take it out of him, and pain is a marvelous
          purifier." 6 "...It is not necessary to beat the child into submission; a little bit
          of pain goes a long way for a young child. However, the spanking should
          be of sufficient magnitude to cause the child to cry genuinely." 7 
 

          Victims Information Bureau of Suffolk County: "Many men make
          statements such as, 'My partner makes me hit her.' Blaming the victim is an
          easy way of denying responsibility for your own behavior.... No matter
          what your partner does, you don't have the right to hurt her." 8 

          James Dobson: "Some strong-willed children absolutely demand to be
          spanked, and their wishes should be granted."9 

          Protect Your Child: " I have a right to scream for help even if I am told
          by a molester to be quiet and obey....l don't have to obey someone who
          hurts me or wants to hurt me." 10 

          James Dobson: "Two or three stinging strokes on the legs or buttocks
          with a switch are usually sufficient to emphasize the point, 'You must obey
          me.' " 11

          Suffolk County Women's Services: "You cannot end the violence by
          trying to be 'better' or by trying harder to please your abuser." 12 

          James Dobson: "You can explain (to your child) why he has been
          punished and how he can avoid the difficulty next time." 13 

          The Safe Child Book by Sherryl Kerns Kraizer: "We need to look at the
          ways in which we teach our children to be blindly obedient to adults and
          authority figures. Most children do not know they can say no to a police
          officer, a teacher, a principal, a counselor, a minister, a baby-sitter, or a
          parent when an inappropriate request is made." 14 

          James Dobson: "By learning to yield to the loving authority...of his
          parents, a child learns to submit to other forms of authority which will
          confront him later in his life -- his teachers, school principal, police,
          neighbors and employers." 15 
 

          Suffolk County Women's Services: "You have a right to a life free from
          abuse." 16 

          James Dobson: "Most (children) need to be spanked now and then." 17 
 

          The Safe Child Book: "Young children tell me that some of the ways
          they don't like to be touched are: kisses on the mouth, getting their shirts
          tucked in by grown-ups, being picked up, having their hair stroked, having
          to kiss Grandma and Grandpa or Mom and Dad's friends... They can be
          unwanted touch, just as sexual abuse is unwanted touch... It is important
          to respect children's preferences. By learning to say no to one type of
          touching, children learn to say no to the other." 18 

          James Dobson: "Minor pain can...provide excellent motivation for the
          child... There is a muscle, lying snugly against the base of the neck... When
          firmly squeezed, it sends little messengers to the brain saying, 'This hurts;
          avoid recurrence at all costs'." 19 

          Victims Information Bureau of Suffolk County: "Men who abuse do
          so in order to maintain power and control over their partners." 20 

          James Dobson: "A child wants to be controlled." 21 "... The need to be
          controlled and governed is almost universal in childhood... It is through
          loving control that parents express personal worth to a child." 22 

          The Safe Child Book: "Private parts include the genital area, the
          buttocks, and the breasts. It is sometimes easier for parents to say
          something like 'The parts of your body that your bathing suit and
          underwear cover up are special parts of your body. You can touch
          yourself there, but other people shouldn't. except if you're sick or at the
          doctor. Those same parts of the body are special for other people and it's
          not okay for someone older than you to touch you...' " 23 

          James Dobson: "If a parent responds appropriately, on the backside, he
          has taught the child a valuable lesson..." 24 
 

          Victims Information Bureau of Suffolk County: If your partner has to
          change her behavior in order to keep herself free from your physical or
          verbal assaults... then she is being 
          abused." 25 

          James Dobson: "Corporal punishment in the hands of a loving parent is a
          teaching tool by which harmful behavior is inhibited." 26 
 

          Child Sexual Abuse Prevention: Tips to Parents: "Children who may
          be too frightened to talk about sexual molestation may exhibit a variety of
          physical and behavioral signals. ...Symptoms (include):..excessive
          crying..." 27 

          James Dobson: "Real crying usually lasts two minutes or less, but may
          continue for five. After that point, the child is merely complaining... I would
          require him to stop the protest crying, usually by offering him a little more
          of whatever caused the original tears." 28 

          Victims Information Bureau of Suffolk County: "Batterers
          over-personalize their partner's behavior, perceiving any disagreements as
          attacks against him." 29 

          James Dobson: "When a child has lowered his head and clenched his fist,
          he is daring the parent to take him on." 30 

          Child Sexual Abuse Prevention: Tips to Parents: "Other behavioral
          signals (that indicate a child may have been sexually molested
          include)...aggressive or disruptive behavior..." 31 

          James Dobson: "An appropriate spanking from a loving parent in a
          moment of defiance provides (a) service. It tells (the child)...he must steer
          clear of certain social traps... selfishness, dishonesty, unprovoked
          aggression, etc." 32 

          Victims Information Bureau of Suffolk County: "When trying to
          resolve a conflict, look for 'WIN-WIN' solutions, where both of you feel
          that the resolution is acceptable. Don't make your partner into your
          opponent. Remember that the goal is to solve a problem, not have the
          'upper hand'." 33 

          James Dobson: "When you are defiantly challenged, win decisively." 34 
 

          Notes 

          1. Slaby and Roedell, "The Development and Regulation of Aggression in
          Young Children," in Judith Worell, ed., Psychological Development in
          the Elementary Years (New York: Academic Press, 1982), pp. 98, 106,
          107. 2. Dobson, James, Dare to Discipline, Tyndale House and Bantam
          Books, p. 41. 

          3. Huchton, Laura M., Protect Your Child, Prentice-Hall, Inc., p. 71. 

          4. Dobson, James, The Strong-Willed Child, Tyndale House and Bantam
          Books, p. 37. 

          5. Domestic Partner Education Program, Victims' Information
          Education Bureau of Suffolk, p. 10. 

          6. Dare to Discipline, p. 16. 

          7. Dare to Discipline, p. 23. 

          8. Domestic Partner Education Program, , p. 7. 

          9. The Strong-Willed Child, , p. 73. 

          10. Protect Your Child, p. 71. 

          11. The Strong-Willed Child, pp. 53-4. 

          12. Confronting Family Violence, Suffolk County Women's Services, p.
          3. 

          13. Dare to Discipline, p. 23. 

          14. Krazier, Sherryl Kerns, The Safe Child Book, Dell Publishing
          Company, lnc., p. 98. 

          15. The Strong-Willed Child, p. 235. 

          16. Confronting Family Violence p. 3. 

          17. The Strong-Willed Child, p. 63. 

          18. The Safe Child Book, p. 47. 

          19. Dare to Discipline, p. 26. 

          20. Domestic Partner Education Program, p. 4. 

          21. Dare to Discipline, p. 16. 

          22. Dare to Discipline, p. 39. 

          23. The Safe Child Book, p. 48. 

          24. Dare to Discipline, p. 40. 

          25. Domestic Partner Education Program, p. 5 

          26. The Strong-Willed Child, p.35. 

          27. Child Sexual Abuse Prevention: Tips to Parents, U.S. Department
          of Health and Human Services, Office of Human Development Services,
          Administration for Children, Youth and Families, National Center on Child
          Abuse and Neglect. 

          28. Dare to Discipline, p.38. 

          29. Domestic Partner Education Program, p. 9. 

          30. Dare to Discipline, p. 40. 

          31. Child Sexual Abuse Prevention: Tips to Parents 

          32. The Strong-Willed Child, p. 36. 

          33. Domestic Partner Education Program, p. 17. 

          34. Dare to Discipline, p. 36.