Transitional forms occur in identity

Take someone I know for instance:

She is female
(what do you assume about this person already based on the use of the word 'female'?)


She goes to lesbian bars frequently
(oh, she's a lesbian. does she dress badly too?)


She is attracted to cross-dressers and gay men
(um, why does she go to lesbian bars then?)


She is attracted to women as well
(uh, is she a lesbian or not?)


She goes to goth clubs
(oh, she's a freaky goth chick)


She can also do a mean 2 step and some pretty fancy swing
(that's pretty diverse)


She loves being the center of attention
(ooooo, she's an exhibitionist)


You can see her a lot on the sidelines watching other exhibitionists
(does she liked to watch or be watched? whatever, I bet she's hot)


When you talk to her online, she is fascinatingly intense and dramatic
(Wow! I think I wanna meet this chick!)


When you meet her in person, she's quiet and withdrawn
(bummer. but wait: which is more real, the quiet her or the intense her?)

It gets very difficult to precisely define this person, doesn't it? What generic identity would you choose to label her with? In coming up with this label, which part of who she is would you choose to focus on? Would your focusing on one part of her come at the expense of all the other parts of her identity?

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