Working together for school success

 Conference Time

Attending parent-teacher conferences is helpful even if your child's grades are good. Why? Teachers can often tell you how your middle grader gets along with peers and ways you can support learning at home.

 Energy Booster

Middle graders seem to always be on the go. Even so, they may not get enough exercise. Try taking a 10 or 15 minute walk together a few times a week. The quiet time might lead to some great conversations!

 Encouraging Words

As parents, it's sometimes hard to keep from criticizing our children's mistakes. Tray this rule of thumb. For every negative comment, make at least three positive ones. Experts say this is a great way to build your middle grader's self-confidence.

 Worth Quoting

"What wisdom can you find that is greater than kindness?" Jean-Jacques Rousseau

 Just For Fun

Q: What happened to the plant in math class?

A: It grew square roots!

 "Dad, help! My science report is due, but I left it on the kitchen table. Can you bring it to me?"

When children are small, parents fix most of their problems. As kids' grow, shielding them from mistakes and consequences often robs them of learning opportunities. Here are ways to help your middle grader become more responsible.

 Whose problem is it?

Before offering a solution, ask yourself, "Is this my problem or his?" Example: It's his if he left the report behind. It's yours if you promised to remind him and then forgot.

 Balance of power

The chance to come up with some solutions puts your middle grader in control. Let him know you think he's capable of making a wise decision. Example: "I can't leave work to bring you the report. You're smart and can handle this problem on your own."

 Lend an ear

Show your concern by listening carefully when your middle grader explains the situation. He'll know you are if you put his thoughts and feelings into your own words. Example: "You worked so hard on that report, and now it's sitting at home. I know you're worried about not getting it in on time."

 Bonus:

Your child will feel more independent and grown up when he works things out by himself. "Dad! The teacher said since this hasn't happened before, she'll only take off five points if I turn it in tomorrow!"

Saying no to drugs is tough for many middle graders. They don't want to feel like a goody-two-shoes. Offer your child these humorous and sincere ways to turn down drugs:

 "That idea's so lame it needs crutches."

 "Didn't you read the latest issue of Seventeen? That stuff is so-o-o-o bad for your skin. Breakout city."

 "Now that will really help me study for my ____ test."

 "If we get caught, my parents won't let me hang with you anymore."

 "That stuff will make me feel stupid."

 "No way! I have to go to practice (the movies, baby-sit, etc.)."

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