People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually they may seem like a godsend and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season!

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
 

Becky was very creative. She could take a cardboard box and turn into the most beautiful treasure. I have treasures to this day that she made for me. An old window she took from an abandoned building and turned into wall art. A cardboard box decorated with angels that I keep old cassette tapes in. She made my kitchen curtains from a tablecloth! She could create anything! She was very giving and loving. She was a great listener. She loved to watch tear jerker movies and then cry and cry.  Becky was tiny frame woman but loved to eat. She would water at the mouth when it was lunch or time to eat. She would order tons of food only to eat like a bird. She always had leftovers galore! She kept food in every office drawer, despite our boss fussing at her for bringing ants into the office.

 Before Becky died they built a log cabin home. She literally bled putting in flooring and working on that home. She had it decorated so pretty. She loved pretty things, like Angels. Angels were her favorite! She had a grandson that she was so crazy about. Becky dressed like a million dollars in yard sale clothing. Always neat and attractive. She was a true lady. She wore a huge diamond wedding ring that I admired immediately when I went to work with her. To us it looked like a million dollar ring, and when I commented on she told me it was not real. In fact whenever I complemented any ring or something of hers, she tended to give it to me!

  My marriage was struggling and Becky seen me through all that. She stood by me and comforted me many times and stayed up all night praying for me as well. I soon left that job and Becky did too. As a matter of fact, we both gave notice on the same day. We kept running around together and doing "lunch" and talking on the phone. She drug me from my house during some of the darkest days to go sit at a pond and fish. She was there when I came home from my sinus surgery and my hysterectomy. When my husband or any family was in the hospital she would show up with a diet coke in her hand for me. Becky could make me laugh so hard that we both literally wet our pants from laughing! She ended every conversation with "I love you". She was very loving to all.

In 2001 Becky was shot and killed by her husband. A family now torn forever. Becky's children have no father because he is in prison. Becky's grandchildren have lost a precious Meme and their Grandfather is in prison. Becky and I were going to have supper that night together when I received a phone call from a mutual friend asking me if I had heard any news. I will never forget that day. I simply dropped the phone and sobbed for a very long time. I played her cell phone for several days just to hear her precious voice on her voice mail. I had never lost a friend before. In a moment she was gone. She remains in my heart because I know God sent her to me, even if it was just a short while.