You can experience a new beginning if you are willing to give yourselves to the process.  No marriage is truly hopeless if there is true love and commitment.  Marriage is a super highway, a two way passage to the ultimate in happiness and serenity.  Marriage is not work - it is a privilege.  God has given us the tools we need, first you must open the toolbox.  There are side-effects, however, of opening that tool box and using the tools inside.  The first side-effect is honesty - honesty in all you do, if you follow the process in building a happy marriage you will acquire and learn to use that first side-effect.  It is the concrete of any relationship.

     The second side-effect is integrity - ahhhh a difficult responsibility for some to accept, but in our process it will come as naturally as the sunrise.  The third side-effect is respect - a gift one must earn but by using the honesty and integrity it will be earned.  When you have earned that respect you will be amazed at the miracles surrounding you.  Can you take it?  If you are ready, willing and able, we will begin the process.  I warn you that it will happen and astound you...you will find a brand new person waiting, pure, holy and ready to be borne of that love and commitment to another.

     In our process you will be given assignments to be carried out.  At the time they are given they may seem odd or unusual, I promise you that you will shed tears, you will feel new and you will, above all be ready for the next step before we take it.

      In beginning we will look at the overview of the process, not the details - those will only be revealed as we reach them.  It is somewhat like a very large person in the process of losing enormous amounts of weight - if you look at the 400 pounds being needed to reach a goal, it seems impossible and unconquerable, however, at smaller goals of 10 pounds each - it is perfectly attainable.  We may find some steps that are slower to attain and more labor-intensive - some will require more tears than others but that is a part of the growth process.

      Many couples who have children already find that their parenting skills become so much easier to execute and their children become much more content.  A feeling of love creeps into the entire family.  Some have even said that their extended families become happier and old memories are healed.  Troubled marriages are an illness, much like cancer, if not treated they can be terminal, but as long as there is breath there is hope.  Life is far too short to allow a marriage to languish and die.  No one wants to go through life lonely and disconsolate and it doesn't have to be that way - I promise you.  We will ask you first to sign a commitment to the process - both of you.  One can not do this - the goal of the process is for two to become one in all things that matter.

     You will notice that we did not say become one in all things, period - that would not be healthy.  It is the premise of having some differences that make marriage exciting and interesting.  The goal in dealing with differences, however, is reaching out and exploring those differences to find points of tolerance and even agreement.  No one will ever be asked to sacrifice Christian standards and values in this process, ever....that is a prime foundation for a happy marriage.  We will begin all sessions with prayer for wisdom, guidance and patience in completing the process.  There will be times when you are asked to spend time apart from each other to meditate, pray and work alone without outside influence...this is a part of the process.  It will involve being able to be individuals - you started out life as an individual and following scriptural example we become one. 

Even if I had a "magic pill" to give you to heal your marriage, I wouldn't - you wouldn't appreciate it and chances are the disease would creep back in because of neglect and allowing it to raise its' ugly head once again.  By putting forth effort and time, you will gain an appreciation of the healing and take the time and effort to keep it healthy.  After we reach the end of the main process we will engage in an aftercare program and you will leave here with the tools intact to maintain that love and passion and growth.  If something doesn't grow, it will die, we cannot stagnate - to stagnate is to die.  Indeed that may be a major reason for you being here in the first place.

Please join with me for a moment of silent prayer...

Heavenly Father, we join here today to ask you to open our hearts and our minds to the process of healing.  We know that you created woman from the side of man to be his helpmate and his companion in union with you and with you at the head of the household, the head of the home.  We ask that you give us your blessings today as we take this journey together to walk away from here hand in hand, heart in heart and mind in mind.  We ask that you grant us the ability to accept our partners as a part of us, as our very life-breath-and action of living.  With our hearts open to your will, bless us each and every one, we ask that you place your hand upon us as we begin this journey to healing and bless those whom we touch each day with the gifts of happiness, serenity, laughter and calm - your peace that we cannot fully understand but accept fully and consciously.
In Christ's Holy and Precious Name
Amen