Bat Mitzvah family project leads to
business for Cambridge woman
By Susie Davidson
Advocate Correspondent
Natalie KaminskyÕs December, 2002 bat
mitzvah at Temple Beth Or in Miami was a uniquely personal event. She and her
mother designed and sewed a tallis, her father led the service and her
grandmother made her a quilt which incorporated the Hebrew alphabet.
Aunt Janet Raskin wanted to contribute as
well. ÒMy perception of the bar/bat mitzvah ceremony had changed since I became
a member of the ÔparentÕ generation,Ó she recalled. Instead of a time to study
Hebrew, learn the service, and have a party, she now viewed the ceremony as a
pivotal point in a girlÕs maturation, with accompanying joy, wonder and
sadness. ÒI wished that I could give her love, hope, guidance, protection - all
those things that never come in a box,Ó she said. ÒIf only she had the benefit
of the wisdom and experience that older family members had,Ó she thought. ÒIf
only she knew us, the members of her family, the way we know ourselves.Ó
At that moment, the idea for a collection of family stories came to her, and she asked family members to pen something from their lives: something they were proud of, a problem they solved, or a reflection on an event. ÒI asked them to share something about who they are and what they know of life so that Natalie could see them as people, beyond the role they play in her life, as mother, father, grandparent, etc.Ó
Raskin, a Cambridge resident and member of
the B'nai Or Jewish Renewal congregation in Watertown, was born and raised in
Miami and earned a bachelorÕs degree in Speech at Northwestern University,
majoring in Performance Studies. A former radio announcer at a classical music
radio station in Chicago and singing and dancing banana in a theater troupe at
Coconut Grove Playhouse, she wrote an award-winning CD-ROM adventure game, edited
online learning courses and acted on many Boston stages.
Raskin chose to write about a night she
spent in a haunted youth hostel. ÒI reflected on my tendency to have an Ôoveractive
imaginationÕ,Ó she said. With some coaxing, wonderful stories came in from the
others. NatalieÕs grandmother Dorothy wrote about attending a one-room school
in the 1930s. Her grandfather Ken wrote about learning to play the violin as a
six-year-old in St. Paul. Her mother Carol wrote about getting lost on a train
in Germany. Aunt MarciaÕs poetic work chronicled her trips to the snowcone
stand during hot Louisiana summers. Cousin Emily explained how she picked out
her first dog; the youngest family members contributed pictures.
Raskin prevailed upon her parents to write
stories about their parents, so that the great-grandparent generation would
have a section. Extended family members came forward with more stories. ÒI
assembled them by generation, created title pages, proofread, edited for
grammar, designed a simple cover, and wrote a poem to preface the collection,Ó
she said. She had KinkoÕs do the printing with a coil binding and made books
for each contributing household.
At the end of the service, Raskin presented
the book to her niece, who had no prior knowledge of the project. During the
subsequent luncheon, guests and relatives expressed appreciation. ÒFamily
members, particularly in the grandparent generation, thanked me for giving them
the opportunity to write about their lives,Ó she said. ÒIt was the kind of
thanks that comes with a hand clasp that doesn't want to let go.Ó
Raskin believes that memoir writing is a
universally-shared emotion, to be nurtured and encouraged. ÒWhen someone is
given a purpose for writing, a structure for a story, a short task, and the
goal of being published, it makes memoir writing more motivating,Ó she said. In
fact, after the bat mitzvah, she decided to start a memoir book business so
that other families could experience what hers had.
Raskin, who had eight years of experience
in teaching English and writing and eight more as an editor in the educational
publishing field, located business classes at Neighborhood Business Builders
through the Jewish Vocational Service in Boston. She is currently designing
keepsake memory books for a business she plans to launch this fall.
Raskin can be reached at janetraskin@comcast.net.