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Dearest Sister - Why not Cover Your Modesty by Abdul Hameed Al-Balali
This ebook has 59 pages. It is in PDF format and is 4.77 MB.
http://www.4shared.com/document/r7REoUAG/Dearest_Sister_-_Why_not_Cover.html
The hajib has become a very controversial issue. As more people get involved
with it, the lay person often becomes confused and frustrated in trying to
figure out what Islam really requires in this regard. This book follows a
scholarly approach and presents conclusion from the Quran, the hadith
literature, and history. Highly recommended for those looking for straight and
clear answers.
an Excerpt:
Another group of our young sisters pertain their non-commitment to hide their
modesty to the fear of not getting married.
In many cases this dubiosity is shared by our sisters and their parents. It
stems from the fear that young men will not ask for the hand of a girl for
marriage unless they see her hair, her beauty, and the shape of her body.
Therefore if the young woman was covered, then no one will approach her for. In
fact Satan uses this fear to stir this dubiosity in their heart.
There are two points that repudiate to this dubiosity: The first point: The
ideological and theoretical aspect.
Even though beauty is a major reason for marrying a woman, yet it is not the
only reason. The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him), indicated the different
reasons which make men marry. He said: A woman is married for four reasons; her
wealth, her family, her beauty, and her piety; do your=20 best to win the pious
one, may your hand be soiled with dirt. (The last phrase is used as a form of
affection). (Sahih Al-Bukhari) The above hadith clearly indicates that people do
not seek beauty only. Rather there are reasons and conditions that may be less,
more, or as important as beauty. Consequently, assuming (as some of our sisters
and their parents do) that beauty is the one and only thing that people are
looking for, while searching for a wife is not true. It indicates ignorance of
the nature of man.
The second point: The practical aspect.
Many of the young men in our society, insist on marrying a woman committed to
covering up her modesty and of good reputation, even though the suitor himself
might not be committed. Consequently, displaying the young woman's beauty and
make up, may be the reason why young men would not approach a prospective wife.
The young men's logic is that if this woman has carelessly ignored a divine
order, (which is to cover up her modesty), then it is also likely that she may
disregard other divine orders. For the ways of Satan are gradual.
[Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their
modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: And Allah is well
acquainted with all that they do.
And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their
modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what
(must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their
bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers,
their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or
their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom
their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small
children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike
their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye
Believers! turn ye all together towards Allah, that ye may attain Bliss.]
{TMQ 24:31}
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