(Psalm 127:3 - 5) Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
I am the mother of six children, and many times when my husband & I are out somewhere with our children, we are asked, "Are all these yours?" Sometimes we'll make a joke about just renting them to see how we like them. After the jokes and we've finally answer yes, their response to me is usually, "You must be very patient and organized."
In other words, people today think only patient and organized women ought to consider having "many" (e.g., more than two) children. Does that mean only patient, organized females are the prime candidates for motherhood? I am so glad I didn't think so before I applied for the job and I'm sure my children would agree! Although I am still in the process of learning both qualities, I was not born with them, as I'm sure most of you were not. That may have been one of God's reasons to add many children to my life in the first place. Paul said: (Phil 3:12) Not as though I had already attained, either were already perfect: but I follow after, if that I may apprehend that for which also I am apprehended of Christ Jesus.
In other words, Paul is saying God puts situations into our lives to grow us to the place He wants us to be. Many times it comes in ways we would prefer it didn't, but God in His wisdom, knows HOW to grow us.
How do we gain patience and organization? James said: (James 1:3) Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. In Vol. 2 of Streams in the Desert, a young man went to an old saint on one occasion and asked him to pray for him, saying, "I find myself giving way to impatience continually. Will you please pray for me that I may be more patient?" The old man agreed. They knelt together and the man of God began to pray: "Lord, send this young man tribulation in the morning, send this young man tribulation in the afternoon..." The young man nudged him and said, "No, no, not tribulation, patience:" "But," said the old saint, "it is tribulation that worketh patience: If you would know patience you must have the tribulation." Are you praying for patience with your children? I encourage you to for your children's sake & for yours; but when you do, don't get upset with God or your children whenever they give you one of the worst day you've ever had!
With six children, I may have more opportunities to practice patience than some other mothers. I may also look organized; but I also get frustrated by the things that don't get done. Just like you, I am learning how to get organized and gain patience as I go. I have slowly learned that God didn't intent for ME to get everything done; he gave me many little hands to train and help me in the many things I have to do & that prepares them for when they are old enough to begin a family of their own. Have you ever noticed that we RAISE a garden and weeds just GROW UP. God gave you and He gave me those children to RAISE. (Proverbs 22:6) Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. If we're not training them to be the Godly, Christian young men and women; by example, by word and by deed; don't be surprised when they give you grief.
Please don't get me wrong, our home isn't what you would call perfect. There's usually dirty dishes & laundry to wash or put away, there's some clutter around. There are some days that things don't go as planned and I don't get everything done that I planned on; in fact, it's the rare exception that I accomplish everything that I planned on in a day. But I'm trying to train my children in what's important: love, respect, obedience, staying away from ungodly influences, and other good character traits.
God does not usually give us four or five children all at once and say, "GET ORGANIZED!!!" Most of us, thankfully, start with one and go from there. As we train our small children to help with some of the smaller tasks and faithfully continue to train them, we end up with quite a bit of help and organization! And we end up fulfilling at least a part of Proverbs 22:6.
You may be saying, "I've already raised my children. I'm done in that area." But let's see what the Bible has to say about that. (Titus 2:3 - 5) The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. There is a responsibility of older or experienced women who have already raised children or who still are and have experience to impart to the younger mothers.
Just look around you to see where we have failed in this area; how many grandparents do you see raising the children of broken homes or teenage pregnancy; because parents have failed to show their sons and daughter how to keep a proper and happy home. Where are these younger mothers and would-be mothers today? They are probably at their jobs, exactly where many of the older women, who have raised their families, have encouraged them to go, by their example. Now we hear of government subsidized National Child Care plans to further encourage parents to abandon their tiny children. This may help the large corporations have more workers to build their companies, but what about building their families to influence this world in godliness? We could raise such strong families and have such an influence for Christ if only we were doing our part in raising a godly generation without trying to do the men's as well.
What about the young ladies who haven't gotten married or had children yet? Those young ladies could be preparing for the day when God blesses them with a loving husband and small children of their own by spending time with young mothers. Not only would she gain experience in how to raise children, but she could be such a blessing to someone.
We each, as women, have a responsibility. May God richly bless you as you try to do what the Lord would have you to do with the children He has given you. Unmarried ladies, begin gleaning from the other mothers around you to help prepare for child rearing. Let's not neglect our little responsibilities.