Dating Adventures...

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    WOW, where to begin on this subject. First and foremost, these are presented as my own personal adventures...I was there, and witnessed these facts whereas, you were not...so spare me any hate mail.

    It took me a year to get the nerve up to start dating again. I am not one of those chicks who 'needs' to have a date or gets lonely easy. Maybe its because I am so busy with the kids and my life, but its just the way I am.

    Ok, lets start here; if your a single mother, some men seem to think you are just looking for father for your children. YEAH, a couple actually asked it, which showed me, others may be thinking the same thing. What a crock of crap that is...what did I tell them when they asked?

    I told them "I can handle everything all by myself einstein...and I do mean everything". Needless to say, when they wanted another date...I told them "um, thanks, but I'll pass".

    Jerks...as if I'd give them one after that offensive stuff.

    THEN there are the parents or families of those 'gentlemen' you date. Most of them dont accept your children, so dont even bother trying...they think you are looking for a meal ticket. Trust me when I tell you that they actually LOOK for reasons to dislike you. To be quite blunt, some are downright mean to you if you have children. They may exclude your children from family BBQ's, events, etc. Yup, they do. Dont let that stop you from dating, for that would mean they win. Don't (ok, try not to) take it personal. Step back, look at them and be thankful you are NOT in their family; look at the source dear... thats all. Then get to step'n and don't look back.

    I started dating about year after I threw the ex out. It took that long just to want to be near a man again, let alone date one. Sure I had offers, but I just couldnt bring myself to dating....LOL!!! Anyway, I dated a great deal many men and noticed a few things along the way.

    You can tell a lot about a person if you listen and observe everything. It may sound funny, but I swear to God it works.

    These are pretty funny, but true none the less:

    Meathead-Meatheads is a term I use for those sports types. You know the type, obsessed with sports, has little to no neck. Some look like they were quite literally like they had been vacuum sucked into their trucks. YEAH!I know they were born with a neck, so it must be there somewhere...

    Professionals-Lawyers, Doctors, etc. Yup dated some of those too. If you ever get a chance to go fishing with these guys it is soooo much fun. If you ever get a chance to go on one of their yahts, do it. Its a great experience all around.

    LAWYERS: lawyers work hard and like to play hard. They like good food, good company, and laughs. Very fun to date.

    But, (yup, here it comes) they write everything down, and I do mean everything. If they have a disagreement with you, they have their secretaries type up a letter to you explaining why they did what they did and how they feel. LMAO!! They hand deliver it to you, but my point is, I don't want a man whom acts like that. Most carry around a disposable camera at all times(for what I have no idea) and even want to record what you say on their tiny recorders.

    Marry one?....oh hell no. Wee bit too paranoid, suspicious and sneaky for me. I imagine living with one would be a daily arguement after another (they LOVE a debate), with long typed up notes left on the table in the morning explaining themselves. What a nightmare it must be. Yes, I have had offers of marriage from lawyers as well, but the idea of living with one.... well, I respectfully declined.

    DOCTORS: doctors are a whole other animal. Some are fun to hang with, but on a whole, most are tight ass's. By that I mean some are very critical, very anal and not too playful.

    When going out to eat, they ALWAYS pick the cheapest specials. Cheap Cheap Cheap these gentlemen are. They (out of habit) are constantly watching their watches, to see if that date or YOU are worth their time. To them, time is everything. Lawyers too, but its really bad with the doctors.

    Doctors fix everything at home themselves, rather then pay to have someone whom knows what they are doing do it. I dont know, if I needed heart surg, I would go to the one who knows it inside and out. I would never want anyone who cuts corners or is in a rush. Anyway, they band aid almost everything. Most lack blue collar skills but give it a try, I'll give them that. What ever makes them happy. I have had an offer of marriage from one doctor, but respectfully decline for my own personal reasons. The rest of them, I just refused to date them again. They can hug their watches.

    Oh, on a personal note: I give these guys credit where credit is due. They all do a job that I couldnt do and work very hard.

    Fitness Men- Oh boy, where to start with these guys. Yeah yeah yeah, they are very pleasant to look at, I know. But that 'new' body effect wears off pretty quick. These gentlemen are almost the worst to date. For those who have ever dated one, you know exactly what I mean.

    First of all, 99% of them are not only obsessed with their bodies, but are control freaks as well. You better be prepared to do a daily stroking to their ego....every...single...day. They need to be told how wonderful they are at least every hour. For some strange reason, they think they can control just about anything. Nothing is ever in anyones control, but I guess they have not learned that one yet.

    Its all about them too.They feel compelled to control what you eat, whether you ask their opinion or not.

    If you want to date one...feel free, but I sure wont again.

    "Do you know whats in that?" they ask appauled you would ever consider eating it in the first place.

    "Nope. Cant say that I do. I dont even wanna know. Just like I dont even wanna know how many rat hairs are in my chocolate bars are....I dont even wanna know."

    Stunned. They are now stunned. If you EVER want to stun one, eat a cheesesteak or something baaaad for you in front of them. The look on their face is just priceless. Its worth THAT.

    Of course we all shouldnt just eat nothing but junk, but between their obsession with 'the temple' and how they are self rightous enough to appoint themselves the food police, I couldnt resist.

    Just smack your lips while saying "mmm mmmmmm gooooood". The look on their face will provide with you with laughs for weeks.
    What ever man...I dont wanna spend my life worrying about everything. cut me a break.

    Construction Workers- These guys vary a lot. Some are really sweet and some are just cold and unemotional. They are very down to earth for the most part. Even though they usually can not afford the finest of everything, they are, on the most part, enjoyable company (unless they are sheltered).

    Been through hell...

    We've all been through hell and dont need any more crap from someone. Be more selective this time around ladies.
    RED FLAGS TO LOOK FOR
    (that means observe closer if you see any of these things)

  • If he still lives with Mommy or Daddy... there may be an issue there. If so, odd's are, mommy is still picking up after him (slob galore). He may be prone to being critical. He may run to mommy with every problem or disagreement you have. In the long run, you may want to leave this one alone.
  • If he always rides a bike...there may be an issue there. Some guys lose their driving privilege from drinking and dont tell you. They just want to meet on the boardwalk (or some park) for a bike ride. You never know if he has some sort of serious drinking problem.
  • If he doesnt know how much things cost, even though he's a full grown man.... there may be an issue there. Odds are they are sheltered, dont shop or mommy shops for him. This means he will more then likely freak out for even small problems arise in life.
  • If he has 'road-rage' or drives like an idiot when angry (and yes, with you in the car).... there may be an issue there. Its complete lack of respect for others when they act like that. Its also a pretty big sign he acts on his anger. Odds are, he's self important, self righteous and inpatient.
    ALL of the core elements for an abuser. Careful with this one.
  • If his family gets all up in your private life...there may be an issue there. They are not asking you details about you, your personal life, your income, etc because they care honey. They are analyzing, comparing and scrutinizing. Its a "self entitlement" thing they have going on. If they do, then odds are, so does he. Yeah I know, its not only rude, but downright dysfunctional. I guess their mommies never taught them boundrys, or the term "thats none of your business". They just dont seem to know how dysfunctional that is. Simply smile, dont tell 'em anything... and ditch the lot of them. Quick.




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