Finding some peace
Family, schoolmates struggle with loss of
16 year old killed by a drunk driver
By Diane D`Abruzzo
Staff Writer
Wed. Nov. 24, 1999
Friends and family of Jesse Lockamy are quick to tell you that the 16 year old was never happier than when he was on his bicycle, riding to Wednesday night youth services at Antioch Baptist Church.
He loved being outdoors on his bike. And he loved his church, where he was baptized just a few months ago.
But Jesse`s ride ended in his death last Wednesday, when a passing truck hit him head on as he peddled down Green Lewis Road on his way to church.
The driver, 34 year old Thomas Edward Swain of Bolivia, was charged with driving while impaired and murder.
So while students at South Brunswick High School mourn for there classmate, a young man many say had turned his life around and was on the road to success, they also are dealing with the anger of knowing Jesse`s life may have been taken by a man who was driving drunk.
Algebra teacher Beth Allred said her classroom was filled with talk about Jesse Thursday when the students and teachers got word of his death.
"We got into talking about drinking and driving," Allred said "It was a very surreal discussion with his empty desk right there, it made a huge point. I pleaded with them to remember how this pain felt so they never drink and drive. We talked about how everything happens for a reason and how we should walk away from this having learned something,"
Jesse`s death brought a blanket of grief to South Brunswick High School last week, as students tried to deal with the loss. Members of the Brunswick County Crisis Response team were brought in to counsel students, and hundreds took advantage of the help.
"It`s important for the students to talk about their feelings and let them deal with what they saw and felt," said Marrianne Furey, crisis team coordinator.
"They couldn`t belive it," said Ilene Palmer, a counselor at South Brunswick Middle School and a member of the crisis team. "It was like , "This is a bad dream and I`m going to wake up and see him, or "I just saw him he can`t be gone".
Many teachers, like Allred, used their class on thursday as an open discussion to give students the chance to talk about what they were feeling.
"Everyone was thinking about Jesse," Allred said, "I can feel with the students. He will definitley be missed. You can just feel it, he was a cared for person."
By Friday, student grief turned to anger about the DWI arrest, and that anger turned into action, dozens of "In Memory" posters were taped to the walls as a reminder, how Jesse died, and dozens walked around the school collecting donations for Mothers Against Drunk Driving.
On Saturday, that anger was put aside as students came out en masse to Jesse`s funeral at Antioch Baptist Church.
Young men & women clutched hands and wept in each others arms. A few of Jesse`s closest friends, named pallbearers for the funeral, wore red roses on their shirt collars and embraced each other as they prepared for the funeral.
Hunderds packed the tiny sanctuary and many stood outside the church. Most of those in attendance, the family said, were students of South Brunswick High School and friends of Jesse.
"He touched a lot of hearts and didn`t even realize he was doing it," one women said following the service.
Jesse Alan Lockamy was your typical teenager. He liked his clothes baggy, he spoke his mind and he prided himself being "different," his family said.
"His main goal in life was to be different" said Kelly Lockamy, Jesse`s older sister. If you asked him why he was dying his hair purple, he`d tell you, "to be different" Kelly said.
And a typical teenager, Jesse had his share of trouble in school and trouble at home. Then he found Antioch Baptist Church and the Rev. Tim Spencer. Jesse started attending Sunday services and Wednesday nite youth group meetings with his best friend Tim Carter, earlier this year, said Spencer. This summer, Jesse and Tim traveled to Wilmington with the youth group to see the play "Heavens Gates and Hells Flames," which showed the good about Heaven and the worst about Hell, "at the end of the play they gave an alter call, and Jesse went up and made a profession of faith," Spencer said. "The next Sunday, Jesse told me he wanted to join the church. He was very sincere about the commitment he made." A few months later, he was baptized. At Jesse`s funeral service, Spencer spoke with humor about the baptism, how the heater was broken and the water was ice cold, but how Jesse was determined to go through with it, despite having to fully immerse himself in water, "Jesse said, Let`s go for it," His Dad and Grandmother were there, he wanted them to see him baptized, Spencer said. Though Jesse had been baptized at eight years old at Southport Baptist Church, the second time was more of a declaration of his renewed faith, said Jesse`s Mom Janet Elliott, "I think he wanted to be baptized to show his friends he was making a big change in his life, and he wanted them to know it was because of the Lord," Elliott said, and the change he made in his life was visable to everyone.
I had my share of battles with him, "he brought out the worst in me at times. but he also brought out the best in me," said Ashley Bahen, Jesse`s Earth Science teacher. "But he was doing better, he was making changes in his life at the time of his death, and I hope his family can find some peace in that." His father, James Lockamy, and his Grandmother, Ethel Lockamy, said they noticed the positive changes Jesse was making in his life and give the credit to "The Lord."
"He loved going to church," Ethel said. Everytime the church doors were open, Jesse was there." "We want to thank the pastor for the good job he did with Jesse," James said, "He was more than a pastor to him he was a friend." In recent years, Jesse lived with his father and stepmother, April Lockamy, in there home on Green Lewis Rd. near Bolivia. Father and son loved to drag race together, James will run Jesse`s race car for the last time at Harrells Raceway near Clinton on December 5 in memory of his son. Jesse loved taking apart car engines, he had a collection of motors and pistons and other car parts in his room, James said.
One of Bahens memories of Jesse was when he showed off pieces of an engine he had stuffed into his backpack and brought to class, "Class was never boring with him in it," said Bahen, "he kept me on my toes." Jesse also enjoyed camping and being outdoors, his father said and he loved bike riding. On the night of his death, Jesse told his dad he wanted to paint his bike, He couldn`t find the black paint, but James pulled out his red paint can, and the two worked on his bike. Jesse put on a new chain, rode his bike around a bit in the yard and then took off to meet Tim. It was youth group nite, and the two were going to meet and go together, it was only about 2 1/2 miles to Antioch Baptist Church. "Before he left he said I Love You All I`m going to church," James said he always let us know where he was going.
Minutes later, around 6pm., James and April heard the roar of trucks traveling down Green Lewis Road, saw the headlights and heard the stomach turning crash that took Jesse`s life.
According to the preliminary accident report, Swain was driving his 1994 GMC truck north on Green Lewis Road, where the speed is 55 mph, and went into the south bound lane to pass another truck, That`s when he hit Jesse, who was traveling in the south bound lane on his bike, the report said. The impact of the crash threw Jesse more than 200 ft. off his bike. Swain`s vehicle went off the shoulder of the road, traveling nearly 700 hundred feet before coming to rest in a yard, the report said. The preliminary report states that the 2 trucks were involved in a "willfull speed competition at the time the collision occured." Repeated attempts to contact the investigating trooper have been unsuccessful.
Swain was charged with DWI and murder and is being held in the Brunswick County jail under no bond, a hearing is set for December 13,1999.
Swain had been charged with DWI 2 other times in the past 10 years, but both charges were dropped. The April 1989 charge was dismissed due to insufficient evidence. he regestered 0.04 on the breathalyzer, and the October 1999 charge was dismissed at the request of the trooper.
Knowing that Jesse`s life was taken by a man charged with driving while impaired has angered the Lockamy Family, James is requesting that if there is a Mothers Against Drunk Drivers group in the area that members contact him.
"It`s tough when a person has died from a disease, but when it`s this tragic it becomes very difficult to keep the family from being angry," the Rev. Spencer said. "We`re in the healing process now." Across the road from the Lockamy home is a flower arrangement and a white wooden cross marking the spot where Jesse was struck and killed. The family hopes they will be a reminder of the dangers of drinking and driving.
"I hope Jesse didn`t have to die for nothing," Ethel Lockamy said.
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