Abusive People Suck!
Mood:  don't ask
It's appalling just how many women out there that are being emotionally and physically abused. I have several friends that share something in common with me, emotionally abusive exes. I'm so glad we all got out of our situations, but, there's still way too many women out there that are afraid to leave.

It took me a long time to leave, mostly because I was afraid of what would happen if I did. Threats towards my social life were always plentiful. I was always made to feel like an idiot every time I opened my mouth, and the criticism was endless. When I defended myself and had valid points, I was being a bitch. I was constantly accused of doing rotten things. Granted, I wasn't an angel, but I wasn't doing bad shit every single time their back was turned. The way I spoke, how I chewed my food, my beliefs, were all criticized. It seemed like he could find something wrong with me no matter what I did. I was always talked over, almost as if anything that I said wasn't important, or to be taken seriously. Rumours from so-called friends were spread about me, and of course, he believed them. I wasn't allowed to seek advice about the relationship from trusting friends or family.

I even refrained from writing about my abuse in this amount of detail until now, because for so long, I doubted my observations. I know now that YES, it was abuse, and NO, there was no excuse for how I was treated. I know that I wasn't "overreacting", because, ALL of my friends could SEE how I was being treated. I didn't have to say anything. And most of all, I knew it in my heart and mind the moment the abuse began.

I really loved the insecure threats too, that if I didn't take my song down (which was expressing my feelings regarding the abuse) that they would sue me for slander. Okay, how? No name was mentioned, and, how would anyone know exactly which ex of mine I would be talking about? I've dated several dysfunctional people unfortunately, so, it's hard to say. Plus, the year that I wrote the song has no indication either, because I could be writing about an ex that I dated 10 years ago. Are they scared that the truth of their nature will leak out, and the eyes of those they hold dear will see through their ‘nice guy’ facade? Possibly. Abusers seldom admit their problem, and are VERY good at hiding it from friends and family. If you're interested in the song I'm referring to, it's here: Unlocked

I urge anyone that is in an emotionally abusive situation, to GET OUT. It's not okay to be put down and to feel controlled. And, most cases of emotional abuse DO lead to physical abuse. The website here describes the signs of emotional abuse: Abuse Signs . Again, if you are experiencing the treatment described by me or on that site, I must stress, LEAVE!