HELP! I'm Ready To Quit!
Ever had one of those days...???
...when you have what you think is a *great* day of learning and fun planned, and the kids react with "Do we *have* to start with that?", "I *HATE* math!", "Why do I have to do *that*?!" and other such less-than-enthusiastic responses?
...when it seems like you should have gone into dentistry because it would be a lot more profitable financially, and you already know how to pull teeth to get things done?
...when each kid seems to be able to find at least two errors in the text or inconsistancies in the quiz, and wonders how *you* could have been so stupid to have chosen it?
...when each of the three kids *needs* your individual attention at exactly the same time and announces it in unison with a loud and pitiful whine?
...when you were up late last night with one sick kid who feels a whole lot better today, but you caught it, and feel you have to follow through with the lesson plan anyway?
...when one kid gets to go do something exciting with a friend and the other two don't understand why they get stuck doing *school* instead, and cannot understand the amount of extra work the first one either has already done or is in for when they get back?
...when you hear, ringing in your ears, "this too shall pass"... of course, so does gas.... (sigh)
O.K. First, here's a tissue, let go a little...there...cup of tea? Sit down a minute and let's talk. I've been there too.
Many people find themselves stressed out and ready to throw in the towel at some point in just about every homeschooling career. You may feel depressed - it's easy to get that way when the house is a mess, the schooling isn't going particularly well, or you're not getting positive feedback from your spouse, family or church.
I know how frustrating it can be...my house is more a haven for dust-dwellers than an ad for Good Housekeeping. You will find this is true of a lot of homeschoolers. I've gotten to where I can look at the cobwebs without a flinch (though I'm not particularly proud of that..8^}..) And the expressions on the faces of my kids and I at "school time" are not always happy ones. When the tears start, it's time to stop and take a deep breath.
I know it may sound like 'giving in', but if you can take a month off...(not just plod through another month of not doing what you think you should, mind you - actually schedule, plan and take a whole month off from schooling)... you will likely see a big difference in all your attitudes. We have done this several times over the years, and it does a great deal to ease the stress.
The last time, we spent one week doing targeted clean up of the house so that we all felt better about the place we live, sleep, eat, and play. We did about two weeks of just stay-around-home fun stuff ...went out and played in the yard...(all of us, mom too)...we visited the library a lot, read a whole lot of books, rented and watched (and discussed - though not "officially") a lot of good movies (and a couple of lousey ones), and then did some visiting we had been putting off (because we "needed to do school"), and generally enjoyed ourselves while setting the stage for a happier, more comfortable and easier time when we re-opened school the following month. We were all much more relaxed.
It is amazing what an attitude adjustment you can get from it, and how much better you all feel about reestablishing a routine for schooling after that month. You might even find, like we did, that we really saw more education happening during that 'break' than we had been seeing the month before during the rough times. We eased up some on the scheduling and requirements when we started school again, and the stress levels (if not the dust levels) are still down, while the learning is right up where we want it. Try it! Your kids won't turn into dullards or forget everything in that month, and the light that comes back into all your eyes will be worth it.
Care for another cup of tea?
LINKS FOR CONQUERING FRUSTRATION
The Three Barriers to Study and how to overcome them - it is important to find out what has a child stymied.
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