Divorce: For Better or
D ivorce is, in my belief one
of the biggest problems for many people and especially young people have to deal with. My wife and I have
been married 45 years and I guess were on the edge of divorce many times but
one or the other managed to humble ourselves enough to say –“I’m sorry for my
part” of the problem or heated disagreement we were having at the time.
Marriage is something that must be worked at by both partners all the time. I
remember we were in our late twenties and had been married 8 or 9 years
ourselves, when a divorce took place (after 27 yrs of marriage) in our family
and it seemed like our world was falling apart, so I can imagine how a
child could feel when mom and dad gets divorced and you
know those children love both mom and dad and are torn between the two.
I believe people should
consider marriage and divorce on a more serious note and not take it so
lightly to begin with.I would suggest dating(not sleeping with) for a period
of a year or more and honestly discussing each others false and then deciding
if they can tolerate each other’s shortcomings for 50-60 years and then if
they are sure they can or each one is willing to work on changing their
annoying habits, then get married and start working on making it work. I
believe, if divorce is considered to be an option by either, then that should
be a good reason not to get married..
V erify each others intention
before having any children .It is a serious and important decision when you
think of the self sacrifice that is involved in bringing a child into
this world and the work that is involved in raising them to be good and
decent people and neighbors.
O fen it is the children that
are the most affected by a divorce and it takes a lot of special effort on
both mom and dad to get along with each other, for the well being of the
children to help bring some stability in their lives.
R emembering you’re the
parent and children wants a parents guidance(even though they won’t admit it)
and if they see you and your X fighting and argueing only causes more
problems for them to deal with.
C ontrol your emotions as an
adult so they can learn how to relate to the problems they will face in life.
E ndeavor to show your love
and affection by listening to their problems ,helping when you can,help them
to learn the importance of not being selfcentered and selfish in their
thinking and I believe getting them to help you do charity work for other
people,elderly etc. builds character and a bond between you,them and others
and always remember to praise them for doing good things.
I hope these suggestions will be some benefit to
those who take the time to read them.
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