King Henry calls on you often in his efforts to control his turbulent vassals in Anjou and Brittany and Maine. When you wish to marry Flander's daughter, king Henry again voices his demands that you not arrange your own marital affairs: Henry has other (far less ambitious) marriage plans for you.
Never again will you be able to assume your own authority, having once given it up when destiny offered it to you. You are not the stronger man, and history will have no reason to recall your name above that of another.