Okay, look. I realize that I have been really lucky with coming out and everything, but I cannot say enough about how important it is for one to come out in their everyday lives. Yeah, there are homophobic people out there. There are a lot of small minded, weak, insignificant people who would like to impose their viewpoints on everyone. But letting these people interfere with your happiness is inane. If you think that these people would stop loving you, would stop being your friends, then really, they're not your friends anyway.
The only reason that I bring this up is because I hear a lot of people complain about being lonely, and not feeling anything but isolated from everyone else. So instead of coming to grips with reality and trying to share the truth with loved ones, these people dive deeper into the closet, trying to become people that they just aren't. This always results in everyone in the equasion getting hurt, something that no one seems to think about that much.
Now you're wondering, "If coming out is so easy, why did the Spicer wait until he was nineteen to do it?" Well, I never did say that it was easy, now did I? It's a very difficult thing to do, to bear your heart and soul to the world. We all think that if someone gives us a thumbs down, that it will crush us. I'll tell you for a fact, it doesn't crush you. I have had some negative experiences, don't get me wrong, but I am a very happy person in a very stable relationship.
Yes, I do realize that there are some very unhealthy places to be out and all as well, and I am not telling you that you need to jump out of the closet in like the middle of a KKK rally or anything. As I said earlier, I did not feel entirely safe coming out in my hometown while I lived there. What did I do? That's right boys and girls, I moved to somewhere where I can be a safe, happy little queer. I am out in Willimantic and all now with everyone, and I feel safe there, but it took some distance for me to do it in.
In short, I really think you should figure out what you want from life, and go for it. Be it a man, a woman, or a little bit of both, as long as you're open and honest with all parties concerned, go for it!
