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BEFORE, DURING & AFTER
SPOUSAL ABUSE

Same Story, With Images


Spousal Abuse, domestic violence; those two phrases were never heard of (at least by me) in the mid-sixties. As a matter of fact, I don't recall ever hearing about them until the early eighties. And even then, I seldom heard it mentioned anywhere. Another big one was alcoholism, I had no idea what an alcoholic was suppose to look like or act like.

Today, I can tell you that spousal abuse and alcoholism go hand in hand. In my case, I was sure they were related, except for after years of drinking, he sobered up for a few months and still abused me and the kids again, and again....

I used to think that if I was real sweet and got his dinner ready when he came home from work, layed out his clothes in the morning, even warmed up his truck in the winter, he wouldn't beat me up anymore. Well, I got news for you, it did NOT make a bit of difference.

After many years of putting up with it, I started calling the police. Since most of his drinking was done on weekends, they'd tell me to go to the prosecutor's office on monday, and press charges against him. By then he was back to work and very "sorry", so I wouldn't do nothing. In the early to mid eighties, I found out that I could have pressed charges on him at anytime by requesting that the cops bring the papers with them, the day it happened. So, I finally did it. He swore revenge as they loaded him up in the police car. Of course, he got out the next morning, after he was found not guilty.

The last time I pressed charges, he spent 2 weeks in the County jail. He was soooo "sorry", he was crying. Well I'm sure you guessed it, he did it again. He never stopped beating me up, until the day he died; that is after going to 3 different Alcoholic treatment centers, and psychiatric ward.

Today, I am reliving it through my daughter. It's a vicious circle that has to be stopped. I hope this helps some of you that are being abused, and believe that you did something wrong to deserve that kind of abuse from a spouse, and think he or she will change if you are a nicer person. The chance is it will only get worse. Nicole


INDEX

MY PHOTOS

MY WEBRINGS

GIFTS I RECEIVED

AWARDS I RECEIVED

MY BANNERS & LINKS

CHAPTER 1: MY LIFE IN CANADA

CHAPTER 2: THE BIG MOVE

CHAPTER 3: MY NEW LIFE IN OHIO

CHAPTER 4: LIVING IN THE COUNTRY

CHAPTER 5: MAY HE "REST IN PEACE"

CHAPTER 6: MY LIFE AS A WIDOW

CHAPTER 7: BECOMING A GRANDMOTHER

CHAPTER 8: MEETING MY LONG LOST DAUGHTER

CHAPTER 9: AND LIFE GOES ON

CHAPTER 10: LIFE KEEPS GOING ON..

CHAPTER 11: BECOMING A U.S. CITIZEN

CHAPTER 12: FALLING IN LOVE

CHAPTER 13: HAPPY TOGETHER

IT'S A VICIOUS CIRCLE
(TANIA'S STORY)

I will be adding other chapters as I get them done, so please come back and check later



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