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When I want to back off is when I push even harder. When I know I should keep my mouth shut is when I yell the loudest. When I don't give a damn is when people seem to be happier. Is this becouse I am just fucking stupid, is it becouse I am just wrong and backwards, or is there some kind of psycological connection?
An example of what I mean.. my bestfriend was acting like a slut. I wanted to believe her that she wasn't being one.. but everytime I opened my mouth I seemed to be bitching at her. Needless to say I don't really to blame her for telling me to stay away from her. But.. I miss her at the same time. I think.. I took how I was feeling towards myself (hate) and put it towards her. Why I did I have no idea.. but I know I've done things like that a few too many damn times. What is it about me that pushes everyone away?
-Anonymous, GA
Dear Mr. Topsy-Turvy,
That's one helluva pickle you got there. I don't think that it's some big curse you have on you that makes everything turn out the opposite of what you expect. What you need to do is before you act, take a deep breath and say to yourself, "Is this really worth my actions, and if so, what will the consequences be?" I think you need to stop acting on impulse and think before you act. About your little friend...You need to have her realize that you really care about her (and from what I read, it seems that you do a whole lot). Try once again to have a really heartfelt talk with her. Don't try to push all your bad feelings at her. Instead, practice in front of a mirror before you talk to her. I wish you much luck in the future and I hope you benefit from my advice.
~Tristessa~
Dear Tristessa,
I am 19 years old and very much in love with my girfriend "Darla". We are both high school graduates and in college. Recently, I brought up the subject of marriage and she nearly flipped out. I was rather hurt, but maybe it's nothing personal. I'm not sure. I was really wanting to pop her the question. What do you think the deal is, and what should I do?
-Ready to get hitched in Louisiana
Dear Hitched,
First of all, hats off to you! You're one the very few guys who want to take the plunge into marriage at such an age. Most males can't stand the thought of committing at that age. But I will say that 19 is a rather tender age, and she probably thinks that she's too young. She does love you, but she more than likely wants to finish college and be secure with a career first. Here's what to do: Buy a claddaugh or a simple inexpensive band and give it to her. Please note to her that you are not proposing, but giving her a symbol of your love and commitment to her. I'm sure she will appreaciate it. Don't worry...I'm sure she'll want to marry you in the future.
