Mothers of Angels is a safe haven where mothers who have lost children can share their pain, be comforted, share memories of their children with other mothers who can relate to their loss and be assured that what gets said in the group, stays in the group. We encourage all mothers who have lost a child to join us whether to be comforted or to comfort others.

If you would like to be part of Mothers of Angels.
 please contact us by email.


Join us on any Tuesday at 7:00 P.M. in the fellowship hall
 of Wise Drive Baptist Church in Sumter, South Carolina.
Join our Yahoo emailing listserv at:
Mothers of Angels Group E-mailing List

If you are a mother
who walks in our shoes,
 or you know a mother
 who has lost a child,
 please, come meet with us,
 or email us and a mother
who understands will get in touch.

To assist Mothers of Angels with printing and mailing expenses,
you may make donations to:

 Wise Drive Baptist Church

2751 S. Wise Drive
Sumter, SC 29150

(Write in the memo section of your check, "Mothers of Angels Ministry.")

Some Things That We Have Learned and Experienced

Do's and Don'ts for Helping Someone

 After the Loss of Their Child


What to Say to the Grieving

Although many people want to comfort and help the bereaved, the stress and anxiety of the encounter sometimes makes it difficult to know what is actually helpful. Often, the phrase that is meant to help actually produces more pain and distress. What follows is a partial list of phrases that have been found to be helpful in comforting the grieving person.

  1. I'm sorry
  2. I'm sad for you
  3. How are you doing with all this?
  4. I don't know why it happened
  5. What can I do for you?
  6. I'm here and I want to listen
  7. Please tell me what you are feeling
  8. This must be hard for you
  9. What's the hardest part for you?
  10. I'll call you tomorrow (and do it!)
  11. You must really be hurting
  12. It isn't fair, is it?
  13. You must really feel angry
  14. Take all the time you need
  15. Thank you for sharing your feelings


What Not to Say to the Grieving

  1. The number one "No No" word is the word "closure." "Closure is simply a media buzz word with no substance." There will never be closure.

  2. "Your loved one is in a better place" - surviving families feel that the "better place" is home with them.
  3. "You need to go on with your life - let it go"
  4. "I know how you feel" - unless you have lost a beloved child you will never know how the surviving parent feel.

  5. "Things happen for a reason" 
  6. "God needs him more than we did" - who can speak for God?

  7. "He will no longer be in pain" -
  8. "It will be all right" - how can it be all right? 
  9. "It will get better" - things may get easier, but it takes many months and even years - too far in the future for families to find comfort from these words.
  10. "It was God's will" 
  11. "He was in the wrong place at the wrong time" - this statement places the blame on the victim.
  12. "Time heals all wounds" - time doesn't heal anything - it's what you do with that time.
  13. "You are so strong"
  14. "I admire your courage"
  15. "Life goes on"
  16. "Count your blessings"
  17. "Only the good die young"
  18. "You still have your memories"
  19. "What doesn't kill you, helps you"
  20. "God didn't give you anything you cannot handle"
  21. "God has something better for you in store"
  22. "This will pass"
  23. "I wasn't able to come to your child's funeral. I just couldn't face it."

Grief Is Not...

Grief is not a mountain to be climbed,
with the strong reaching the summit
long before the week.
Grief is not an athletic event,
with stop watches timing our progress.
Grief is a walk through loss and pain
with no competition and no time trials.

Author unknown

Our Angels







Sumter, South Carolina