Most of us have had an online tryst or two. We've fallen head over heels in lust with someone we've never met in real time.

A Dominant and submissive may talk online for years and never meet. They say they are going to do so but, somehow, it just never happens. They play online games with BDSM but the whip never touches flesh. I've had it happen and, be honest, so have you.

If this is all you want, fine and dandy. Play the games online and be satisfied. There's nothing wrong with it. ::shrug:: It is what it is and will never be more and that’s okay.

Now, let's change the dynamics a bit. You, the Dominant, want to take the relationship into real time and your online submissive says he or she wants to as well. You make a play date with all of the particulars worked out in advance. Everything is set and you’re frothing at the bit to get your hands on him or her.

Whoosh. At the last minute and counting the submissive says they can't make it because they have to work ... or whatever the excuse may be. What do you do? Well, you reschedule, of course. You're a trusting soul.

The second play date is set. The same thing happens again. You've been blown off a second time. A pattern has now been formed.

This is when I say ENOUGH and don't play the game anymore. If there is to be a third date set, he's going to have to stand in line. I may remain friends with him or her but I won't make any special accommodations for that person. Should we someday play it will be a miracle. Though miracles do happen, it's none too often. Watch your heart with online relationships. They are real and you can get hurt. I've had to Scotch tape my heart together more than once. I've learned to trust only so far then all sorts of red flags pop up.

I, for the life of me, don't understand why people lie online. They do and that's a fact. Perhaps their 'real' life is so shallow that they need to uplift themselves in other ways. Maybe they have a very low self esteem in real time but the computer allows them to be someone else for a couple of hours a day. Whatever, if you happen to be on the receiving end of this persons day dreams, YOU have put your heart out to dry! They'll hurt you every time.

How do you spot these poor souls who pry on the internet? It's hard. I give everyone a second chance to come to me real time. After that I sit back and rethink what's been said between us and what's real and what's fantasy. But there's no third chance to blow me off. I take it with a grain of salt and go about my business. It saves a lot of Scotch tape.

Guard your heart. Game players seldom follow the rules.

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