Paka-Dekha

This is a ceremony where the groom's family visit the bride's family and finalise all the dates for marriage. Usually the elders from the groom's family visit the bride's family and a gift is given to the bride as a token. Now-a-days this ceremony is also not considered as a must.

Aashirwad or Patri Patra

This is a confirmation of the marriage alliance. It takes place a couple of days before the wedding. The ceremony is conducted by a purohit at the residence of the bride or the groom.

The purohit brings an idol of Bhagwan Narayan. The bride's family pays a visit to the groom and blesses him in the presence of the purohit. The groom's family blesses the bride in similar fashion. The following things are required for Aashirwaad:

An alpana or rangoli of lotus flowers or fish. Rice paste is mixed with water for the rangoli.

A small banana tree, to be placed at the entrance of the house. Under the tree is placed the mangal ghot (a small copper pitcher). In the ghot, a mango stem with five leaves (amra pallab) is placed in water. A 'Sri (*) symbol is drawn next to the ghot, using sindoor mixed in oil.

------------------>Aashirbaad to Groom by his mother-------->

Diyas (oil lamps) and agarbattis (incense) to light during the ceremony.

One cane plate (Kulo) with grass, rice with husk, curd, kajol, sweet and water

Now-a-days, this ceremony is also crashed in those three days. Usually the elder's from the brides family come during the morning to grooms family for ashirwaad.

<-------------Aashirbaad to Bride from her father<------

Similarly, the elders from groom's family goes to the bride's family for ashirwaad, just before the marriage.